We never truly take advantage of what we have access to because we don’t value free stuff.
How many free pdfs have you downloaded?
How many free courses have you signed up for?
How many helpful free YouTube videos have you watched?
How much of that information have you implemented into your life or made use of?
There is an abundance of free stuff out there but the problem is, we don’t value it. Somewhere in our minds we feel like if it has no monetary price then it is not of value.
And we know that this is true because many of us pay for things that we can get for free.
We now have access to more information than we’ll ever use and can ever truly comprehend.
You might have grown up where the only way to learn about something was if you went to the library, watched a documentary on TV or even asked someone you know.
If you want to learn about something nowadays, the answer is a few seconds away. Any random thought or curiosity that comes to mind doesn’t have to pass you by.
You can google it.
And because we have that access, it might make us less likely to read books, watch documentaries and ask questions. Those are things I’d consider to still be worth doing.
When we’re seeking answers or information on a topic, we can find it out on our own pretty quickly.
It’s also something we take for granted.
If you had to leave your home and could only take 10 things with you, what would you take?
Turns out the things we value in our day to day lives aren’t the same things we value in an emergency.
In our day to day life we’re more materialistic, we care more about perception. It’s not that we don’t value the things we need to survive but that they are a given rather than something we need to think about.
In an emergency we place value on safety and survival. There’s not much point valuing your green faux croc handbag when you are without food and water.
And sometimes people choose to live their day to day lives valuing only the essentials even when they don’t have to.
If someone asks you for your opinion it means that they value what you have to say. It means they consider you to be someone worth listening to.
That is something you earn, it’s not a given.
When faced with the choice between having nothing to offer and offering something that you know is incorrect, which would you choose?
Having nothing to offer never looks good. It may appear that you’re holding back or even just being lazy.
On the other hand offering something that you know is of no use is, useless. However, you might be wrong. Maybe, the things you’re holding back from offering may not be totally incorrect. Perhaps some of it is useful after all.
And so, it might actually be worth having the courage to offer what you can, you might surprise yourself. However, even if you’re wrong at least you still tried.
Often the key indicators of someone being ahead of their time is that years later other people are doing what they did with less pushback and other people are gaining more success.
Another indicator is if the person were to do what they did 5 years ago today, how would it be received.
A few years ago I started listening to a podcast that began a few years prior so I had hundreds of episodes to catch up on.
From the very first episode I listened to, I was hooked. I went back to the very beginning and worked my way through.
The podcast ended around a year after I started listening and I enjoyed it so much that I’ve gone back to the beginning and re-listened.
When I think about that podcast I honestly believe it was ahead of it’s time.
I’ve come across other people that are doing similar podcasts and I’ve come across people who started later and have had more ‘success’. Lastly, if the podcast I enjoyed started 5 years later than it did or even if it started today I’m certain I’d have liked it just as much if not more.
And so, I think it’s fair to say that the podcast was ahead of it’s time.
It’s easy to fall into thinking that having access to and analysing the numbers will improve your work.
But sometimes it just makes you miserable.
When you sacrifice what you want to do with what will make the numbers go up you’re less likely to be satisfied with the work you produce.
If you focus on producing work that will make the numbers go up but instead they go down, you’ll be even less satisfied.
Sometimes the numbers are helpful when they give you information about what is or isn’t working.
But other times, they’re not worth checking at all.
Good news is worth celebrating.
When you set yourself big goals and have high aspirations it can sometimes feel like the little wins aren’t worth celebrating.
But when you get a some good news, why not celebrate.
You don’t have to go all out and do something grand. Perhaps you just eat your favourite desert or put on your favoriye music and have a solo dance party.
The purpose of celebrating is to acknowledge the good bits instead of letting them pass you buy. So often we’re just focused on the end goal that we ignore what it took to get there.
I used to be the kind of person that would internalise everything.
For example, if I didn’t get the job I applied for it was because I wasn’t good enough and not that they had 7 excellent candidates and only one role to fill so not everyone could be a winner.
I could give countless other examples but me internalising those experiences all came from the same place, this feeling of not being good enough. It’s a strange realisation when you start to understand that the way you see yourself contributes to the way you experience life.
Once I started working on how I saw myself, my entire outlook on life changed.
I recently had this experience where someone was intentionally inconsiderate. In the past I’d have kept quiet, felt bad, got upset and allowed that one moment to ruin the rest of my day.
Instead, I responded by simply asking why this person chose to be inconsiderate.
I understand why some people might up being that way but it doesn’t mean they can’t change, if they want to.
I was recently asked about whether I write for myself or for readers.
It’s something I think about every now and then but it was interesting to be asked.
On one hand I write for myself because I love it but on the other hand I write for my readers too.
I’m thoughtful about what I share and my intention is to always add value in some way.
I don’t expect anyone to read every single post I write but for the posts you do read I’d like it to feel like time well spent.
Whether it’s 100 words on friendship, career development or overcoming fear, I do my best to add some kind of takeaway.