Tending to the dream

An important step in achieving the dream life is tending to it. Its like with gardening, you need to do more than just plant seeds. You need to space them the right distance apart, water them or maybe give them something to grow against.

A dream you do nothing with is likely to just remain a dream. But I think by tending to it you’re more likely to actually get it in some way or another.

And maybe that’s a scary thought, actually attaining what you truly want. But what do you have to lose, worst case scenario you end up back where you started with the knowledge that you took a risk to make it happen because you were willing to try.

Criticism and feedback

Which one is worth more?

Often feedback is something you ask for whereas criticism is something you get given.

And so there is the idea that criticism is always negative and feedback is useful which in some ways I think is true.

I think that both are worth something if they’re specific and can be used to make improvements but the circumstance should also be considered.

Letting a restaurant know the food arrived cold is worth more than telling an author that their book was bad because you didn’t enjoy it. Nobody enjoys cold food that’s supposed to be hot but there will always be people that like stories about aliens.

And so it’s not a conversation about criticism and feedback but instead objectivity and subjectivity.

It might not be great for the environment but…

… I’m still going to do it.

I find it easier to write down my words by hand, perhaps because I write quicker than I can type. I can never manage to keep up with myself when I’m writing from my laptop.

The keyboard and screen of a phone, computer or laptop is no comparison to a Biro in hand scrawling away on a sheet of paper in a notebook.

At times the words are barely legible but that signifies the urgency to pour out all the words within.

That feeling is a beautiful thing, it’s one of the things I love most about writing, seeing my handwriting and the words I’ve written.

But I’m also aware of the very present environmental crisis on planet earth, so perhaps I should be more willing to go paperless.

A different kind of way

When you’re life is going down a certain path it’s easy to believe that you have no other options, that forward is the only direction you can travel.

Sometimes you know we can reverse but you get that ‘I’ve come come too far to turn back now’ feeling so you keep going in spite of how you truly feel.

Wherever you’re at in life and whatever challenges you may be facing , there is a different kind of way. One that is more helpful, enjoyable and inflow.

You don’t have to carry on living a joyless life or a life of limited joy just because that’s all you’ve experiences thus far

If you’re open to the possibility of something then it’s possible, that’s the belief I like to hold anyway.

Life isn’t as rigid as you might think. You can stop, reverse, turn around and turn left or right. It doesn’t matter how far you’ve come or what other people will think

What matters is your experience and how you feel about it , within yourself.

Just because you’re used yo doing things one way, doesn’t mean you can’t do things a different way.

Getting into the habit: This isn’t just about seeds

Hemp, Linseed and Chia seeds don’t taste particularity great but they’re good for you.

How does one overcome the taste in order to gain the long-term benefits of the seeds.

You do it by accepting that this doesn’t taste great but once you get into the habit of it, it won’t be so bad. Plus think about the long-term benefits.

It takes the brain a while to get used to the new. And often there is that adjustment period of a new routine and in this case a new taste.

But giving it a go and sticking with it through the adjustment period is how you get into the habit of it.

The taste is short-term but you have so much to gain in the long run.

If you had a time machine…

The idea of going back in time and making better decisions, saying yes instead of no and being in the right place at the right time is quite appealing.

Maybe you think your life would improve tenfold if only you could go back and change a few little things.

Perhaps your right but the thing is time travel isn’t possible.

It might be much more useful to give some thought to what you can do today to cultivate the life you want right now.

Instead of wishing your present circumstances away commit yourself to changing them.

Our life paths aren’t linear so just because you went down road A initially, doesn’t mean you don’t still have access to almost every other road.

The concepts I promote

Go, go, go until you can go no more.

I reject the concept of working yourself to the bone as it’s hard to reap the rewards when you’re ill with fatigue and exhaustion.

But the concept of working hard to reach your goals and the concept of being committed are 2 things I’m happy to promote as they allow you to get the best out of life, in my opinion anyway.

And alongside those 2 things I promote fun and I truly believe that laughter and joy are almost all we really need to live a good life.