Slowly but surely

Sometimes good things take time.

But if you’re not willing to wait you’ll end up missing out.

The lesson to learn is that you have to believe it can happen before it happens, instead of getting impatient.

Trust that the thing you want is possible and slowly but surely it’ll happen.

Granted it can be difficult to hold on to what might feel like blind faith but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try.

And don’t get caught up in thinking that the frustration of waiting is your only option.

So much can change in a moment, a few hours or a day.

Before you know it you’ll be onto the good bit.

What it’s like to be an ideas person

Years ago I had an idea to create a lifestyle site based in my city. It would have included things to do and see, restaurant reviews and recommendations, arts and culture, places to shop etc…

That idea never came to life. I wanted it to be a group thing, a site run by team of people. We’d have been writers, editors, photographers and creatives. But I never spoke about the idea, not even once. Plus, at the time I didn’t have any people in my life I could have asked to contribution or run the site with me.

A few years later I had another idea for a collective of sorts. A group of creatives and makers. We’d have been bloggers, graphic designers, fashion designers, photographers, artists, illustrators, web designers…

It would be have been a group of people sharing spaces to work on their projects individually but also together. They’d pay a monthly fee and reinvest the money back into themselves and their work.

Just like the first idea, I never spoke about it and nothing ever came of it.

I think I created these ideas because I craved a community/tribe of people I could relate to.

A few months ago I had another idea (if you can’t already tell I’m quite the ideas person). It was for a society that would hold monthly events and I’d write a monthly newsletter.

When I think about how different my life could have been if I’d pursued these ideas it’s slightly terrifying. It’s not always easy to imagine yourself leading, organising and having the confidence to pick yourself.

But, these ideas are the kinds of things I would’ve wished I’d done if I saw other people doing them, yet I’ve never had the ability to do them myself.

I plan to work on evolving into the kind of person that doesn’t wait to be picked and isn’t afraid to lead over the coming months. And right now that looks like doing things, making things happen and bringing my ideas to life.

Great in theory

The reality of some ideas, projects and plans is that they are only great in theory.

When some things get brought to life they crumble and fall.

Sometimes it’s because we get carried away by the excitement of something new that we overlook or under estimate the time, effort, commitment, dedication and hard work that it takes to bring something to life.

Having a daily blog might sound great in theory but if you haven’t considered that you’ll need to find time to write, have something to say each day, plan ahead etc. The you might not be pleased with the outcome.

If something is great in theory it either means it doesn’t need to be brought to life or you need to take care when you do. It might not always be easy but it’s possible to produce something great.

Challenges in common

One of things that makes a challenging experience more challenging is feeling alone.

One of the biggest misconceptions is that you are alone in your difficulties because you’re not.

With a planet of over 7 billion people I’d like to think that pretty much all my challenges are shared by at least one other person on this earth.

But it isn’t a misery loves company thing or a let us rejoice in the fact that your life is just as challenging as mine.

It’s more about the fact that if 264276 other people have experienced the same challenges as me (failure for example), then maybe it’s not as big of a deal as I thought.

Almost bored

Ever have those days where you’re just pottering around the house not quite sure what to do.

There are at least 17 things you could be doing but instead of getting things done you just sort of flitter from one thing to another, aimlessly.

It’s kind of like a sort of boredom, almost bored but not quite.

I find that those days usually turn out to be wasted. I’ve learnt that, it’s best to either give in and allow yourself to be totally bored or make good use of your time and do what needs to be done.

Being indecisive, caught between do nothing and something is a real waste of time.

Wanting to be included

Sometimes we want to be included because we want to join in and be apart of it.

Other times we want to be included for the sake of being included.

We want to know that we’re being thought of, that someone wants us to be involved and maybe a small part of it is the feeling of external validation.

It feels good to be picked and to feel wanted.

Even when you don’t actually want to join in.

Not quite there yet

I recently had a conversation where I was explaining my neutral feelings towards a topic. As the words poured out I thought I was almost on a bit of a high horse.

But as the conversation went on I realised that my neutral feelings were just a defense mechanism or a coping strategy. Turns out the topic did bother me after all.

However, instead of working to overcome my feelings I’d masked them in neutrality. I think sometimes it helps to be neutral instead of negative but you can take it one step further and have more positive or uplifting feelings.

It really surprised me to find out that I’m not quite there yet but now that I’ve realised, I think it’s something I want to work on.