When you’re on a particular journey moving from an old way to something new, there is always a chance of regression. And sometimes we almost allow it to happen unnessicarily because we tell oursleves that it’s just part of the process wheb really, it doesnt have to be.
It’s possible to keep going without falling back into old ways.
When you’re on the new path and you haven’t seen the effects of your change, you may find yourself wondering if it’s worth it. That is often when you regress and turn to the habits of your old self that are no longer helpful.
Two things to keep in mind are why you decided to make the change to begin with and the benefits of sticking with it, even if they take some time.
We often make the mistake of thinking that the best way to deal with uncertainty is to remove it from our lives.
It makes sense because without all these unknowns there is less risk and you will feel safer.
But the problem with this approach is that you can’t control everything. Uncertainty will always be a part of life.
However, just because you can’t control it doesn’t mean you should let it control you. Think of the uncertainty like a wave in the ocean. There are small waves, little uncertainties like whether the bus will be on time. Then, there are the big waves, the major uncertainties like whether you’ll be made redundant or how long the pandemic will last.
The small waves can be annoying or frustrating but they pass with ease. The big waves on the other hand they have the power to totally consume us. And so we have to embrace the uncertainty and or else you’ll get caught in the wave and wipe out.
Around 18 months ago, the idea of working from home full-time was not an option for many people. However, last year it became our reality. Suddenly we had to adjust to new ways of working. We had to make space at home to work in the same way or as close to how we would in the office.
The world didn’t stop, we showed that it could in fact be done. But it happened because we were forced to rather than companies allowing it or wanting it to happen.
And now, as we get closer to getting ‘back to normal’, a lot of companies want the traditional ways of the 9-5 to return. However, many employees have adjusted to the new way of life and don’t want to go back.
They now save time and money spent on their journeys into work, are less likely to buy lunch, have more flexibility over how they spend their day and more.
For others, working from home may have brought less routine, more distractions, less productivity and a loss of culture/community.
I don’t think it’s a case of picking working from home or from the office but instead acknowledging that both options can work well and then finding a new way.
We don’t need to just go back to the way things were but we don’t need to totally abandon the office.
If you had to choose between pushing on with something in the hopes that it will work out or choosing to quit and starting over, which would you choose?
We’re regularly encouraged to keep going, to try and try and again but what if things just aren’t working out.
Often, the reason we choose to carry on is because we’ve invested time and money and we aren’t willing to accept that our idea won’t be a success. Even when we are aware that our continued efforts will be fruitless, it somehow feels easier to continue down what is likely to be a dead end.
Of course, in time perhaps things will be a success, but maybe we’d actually just be better off quitting and trying something else.
Just because something is on your mind, doesnt mean it needs to be said.
It might seem like a radical concept but not everything needs to be shared.
That idea might seem so far from where we’re currently at because when it comes to social media it often seems that we should push the boundaries and share more.
Around six months ago I wrote a post called ‘Could Instagram guides replace blogging?‘. It’s become one of my most popular posts.
At the time I expected guides would become a more popular feature. But looking through some of the accounts I follow, people either made 1 when the feature was introduced or didn’t make any at all.
I think the reason for this is that guides doesn’t actually add much that isn’t already there.
Despite a guide sharing similarities with blog posts, I think that perhaps it was too much like a blog for those that prefer putting out images and videos and not enough like a blog for those that still participate in the more traditional style of blogging.
It’s also worth noting that Instagram has already played it’s contribution in the decline of blogs.
I think guides is an example of a feature that just didn’t take off as much as the others did.
And I don’t think it’s a bad thing, it’s just the way it goes sometimes.
When I was 16 or 17 years old sat in sociology class i remember my tutor saying ‘There are lies, damn lies and statistics’.
I felt like I understood it at the time but my understanding has definitely grown over time with experience.
The thing with numbers is we associate them with mathematics, facts and truth.
But statistics is something else entirely. Numbers can be skewed and manipulated to prove or represent anything.
If you’re collecting data in the hope’s of proving a particular point, chances are you’ll find a way.
And so when it comes to numbers we have to remember that they aren’t always representing facts.
It’s probably true that in almost any situation there is something negative, difficult, disheartening or unfortunate that you could focus on.
And focusing on those things will rarely make you feel good so why not instead just focus on the good bits. Focus on the bits that bring you joy, make you happy and make you excited about life.
It’s not that you should ignore things that need sorting out or just put your head in the clouds. However, sometimes having the kind of perspective where you focus on the good bits allows you to see the not so good bits with a level of clarity, this then allows you to move forward and progress.
Who doesn’t love the feeling of a fresh start?
Starting something new can bring up feelings of excitement but also a nervousness. This is normal when doing something you haven’t done before. However, the nerves can turn into anxiety if you focus on them too much and allow yourself to get carried away.
And so instead focus on the exciting possibilities of all the things that you hope will become your reality.
Writing a pros and cons list can have many benefits but it’s not suitable for everything.
Organise your thoughts
Assist with decision making
Delay you from taking action
Doesn’t consider importance/significance of each factor
Can end up making decisions more difficult