It is so easy to get carried away.
There are lots of things that you could be afraid of but it doesn’t mean you should be.
I find that the more you focus on fear the more you amplify it until all of a sudden you’re having heart palpitations over something that would be better off as a passing thought.
There’s so much more to you and your life than the things you’re afraid of.
And sure it’s easier said than done but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t at least try.
Sometimes it takes accidental escapism to remind you of the kind of person you desire to be.
Catch yourself in the moment and ask yourself questions like ‘Am I being myself?’ or ‘Is this truly where I want to be?’ And then answer them openly and vulnerably.
You might find that you’re quite content with the life you’ve created but perhaps you’re yearning for more. Many people believe that dreams are something that we have to grow out or let go of, that they aren’t to be actualized. But what if they are.
Perhaps that’s the reason for your lack of contentment in life.
All you have to do is figure out what you want and then go for it with full gusto.
When you’re trying to find a solution it can be easy to get stuck on one particular path. You want to believe that you can work things out so you trudge on hoping for the best.
Maybe you tell yourself that if things aren’t working out then you’re not working hard enough.
But sometimes the truth is you need a different approach to the situation.
It can be difficult to open up to a new way of doing things, especially when you’ve been trying one set way for so long.
However, if you’re willing to do something different even if it doesn’t solve the problem, you’ll probably find yourself closer to the solution.
The leaning tower of Pisa is one of the most buildings in the the world. Its lean comes from what I suppose was a flaw in geo-technical calculations. It is unstable soil and settlement of the foundation that causes the tower to lean.
Yet, what could have been disastrous turned out pretty spectacularly. Probably because it started to lean during construction at a slow enough pace that it could be mitigated rather than leaning on completion with the chance of toppling over at any moment.
The point is that sometimes things don’t turn out the way we want them to be. But that doesn’t mean they don’t still turn out well. The leaning tower of Pisa was accidentally great.
Would we still love it without the lean? Probably not as much.
Would we still love it if it was supposed to lean? I doubt it.
I recently bought a new phone and it tells me exactly how much time I spend on each app, how many times I unlock my phone and a few other stats.
Turns out I spend very little time on my phone doing useful stuff. It’s one thing knowing you waste time on your phone but seeing the exact amount in a bar chart and colour coded pie chart is a whole other story.
I like many others pick up my phone habitually, unconsciously even. It’s not just the fact that I do it but also when I do it.
I pick up my phone just before I’m about to be bored, it’s a habit that has developed since I first got a mobile phone 10 years ago.
At first it was talk, text, games and the radio. But as time has passed the capabilities of phones have grown to the point where even cameras and laptops have become unnecessary.
With so many possibilities from a single device it can be hard to put it down and do nothing.
In years gone by it was much easier to find that you had nothing to do. And in order to get that back it has to be conscious. Set time aside to do nothing. Don’t set a timer, give yourself freedom.
Perhaps you spend 8 minutes lying with your head hanging off the bed and allow random thoughts to flow through your mind, you might also find yourself feeling restless and fidgety because you’re so used to doing it.
Make it a regular practice and see if you notice any changes. I’d be surprised if you don’t at least find yourself feeling more refreshed and relaxed.
If you missed out on anything in your younger years you might hold the belief that it’s too late to do the things you wished you’d done.
But what if you do them now, what if you make a conscious effort to make up for lost time?
Granted with age comes responsibility, so taking out a few months to go backpacking around Asia might not be feasible, if you now have a full time job and a mortgage to pay but maybe you could do it for a week or two instead.
Sometimes it seems as though once we reach a particular age we have to ‘settle down’ and certain things are no longer available to us. But that’s just you restricting yourself. Just because you didn’t get to have as much fun growing up as you’d have liked doesn’t mean it’s too late.