Lessons in friendship

Perhaps one of the most valuable lessons a friend has taught me is to not take life so seriously and to laugh more at the ebb and flow of life.

Life is totally different when you’re willing to be less rigid and laugh at your experiences. When you’re hard on yourself for simply being a human that goes through a variety of experiences, life becomes hard.

But when you laugh and remind yourself that it’s all just a collection of experiences then life somehow softens towards you.

Paying for free stuff

In a recent discussion online, I got thinking about how when it comes to information or resources we pay for things that we can get for free.

But what I’ve come to realise is that for me it’s not about getting the information, it’s about doing something with it. When you pay money for something you’re more inclined to use it, unless you don’t mind wasting money.

It’s also about trust and how much we value the resources.

Sometimes we forget that time, effort and care goes into the things people create.

I think we’re more likely to trust and value something with a cost from someone who has given us things we trust and value for free.

To the point where even if we could get something similar for free we’d actually prefer to pay for it.

Try something new

I’m a blogger/writer and even though I consider that to be creative, I do it so often that it doesn’t always feel that way. That is the reason that I see great significance in experimenting with my writing.

Outside of my 2 blogs I write poetry, occasionally journal and have a notebook dedicated to writing from writing prompts. Most recently I’ve been coming up with ideas for more journalistic style pieces about life and society. They’ll require research on the topics and also time spent learning about journalism but I’m looking forward to trying something new.

Outside of writing I love arts and crafts, basically just making things with my hands. And what I find incredibly significant to my all around growth is that I’m willing to try new things.

Not to be an expert in them but more to broaden and stretch new muscles because my writing mode is different to my arts and craft mode.

Even if it all falls apart

I hold the belief that even if it all falls apart, everything will always be okay.

Which means that I often don’t give things as much effort as I could or should because I’m aware that everything will be okay, no matter the outcome.

When we take advantage of our circumstances life has this way of reminding us that we should make time for gratitude.

It might come in the form of something ‘going wrong’ or having to deal with an un-ideal circumstance. It’s in those moments that we can end up getting frustrated at life for dealing us such a poor hand or we can use it as a growth point.

I’m currently experiencing…

It’s difficult because…

It is teaching me…

Moving forward I will…

 

Taking the first step

We often know exactly what needs to be done but for various reasons find ways to try and get around doing it.

But eventually we find ourselves back where we started knowing that all we need to do is take the first step.

It might feel like the most terrifying the world. You might end up so anxious that the voice in your head is telling you ‘don’t do it, stick with what you know’.

All you can really do is ignore that voice because as soon as you take that first step you realise there was no truth to the thoughts of your anxious mind.

There’s that Chinese proverb that goes something like, ‘the longest journey starts¬†with a single step’

And where better to start than step one.

Consistency, commitment and a lack of heart

There’s a line from an oasis song that goes ‘you can’t get a life if your hearts not in it” It’s funny how a moody 90s band can just totally get you.

I’ve been thinking about how sometimes it’s easy to create things from a place of heart and feeling but other days not so much.

But then I thought, is it always necessary?

Does everything that you do have to be you pouring out from your core?

Or can you just write, create and express without doing so.

I’ve managed to remain consistent and committed to blogging daily which has always been my goal and will always be my focus.

However, I never considered how I would feel towards the things I’d written or if I’d be content with a lack of heart in the words I was sharing.

Spending time

Imagine if you took a break from Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, TV and Facebook.

How much more time would you have each week?

And if you used that time to work on something you truly care about or something that will benefit you like learning a new skill, learning a new language, studying, writing your book or exercising.

Would your life change for the better or worse?