I've often found that the feeling of anxiety grows and becomes more heightened when questions go unasked. When we have uncertainty it creates a gap. And for those that are prone to anxiety that gap gets filled with pessimistic possibilities. Often once the feeling of anxiety has started to grow, asking questions feels too difficult … Continue reading Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
Category: Wellbeing
Worth sticking up for
How many times have you held your tongue or put the needs of others before your own? Often the idea of being selfless is something that is praised but the reality is that it's often just self-sacrifice. When the person that puts others first is around people that put themselves first, they end up losing. … Continue reading Worth sticking up for
What is the most loving thing that you can do?
Imagine bearing the weight of all that is difficult and challenging in your life on your shoulders all at once. Then, imagine having to go out into the world with that load and pretend that everything is fine. After a while the load becomes too much to bear and you reach a point where you … Continue reading What is the most loving thing that you can do?
NLP changed me
When I first discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), it felt pretty radical. I was going through a difficult time and it helped to have something new to learn about that could in turn help me. I bought a book, read it and it changed my life. It wasn't so different that it felt weird or hard … Continue reading NLP changed me
A life changing perspective
A running theme throughout a lot of my posts (and what has become the baseline for this blog) is this idea of life's challenges and difficult moments having a lesson or a takeaway. Having this perspective completely changes your life. You go from things like blaming other people, being overly self critical, treating yourself unkindly … Continue reading A life changing perspective
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? But more specifically, what do you do to support yourself when you feel overwhelmed? The answers might be exactly the same or perhaps you can't find an answer to the second question. Maybe when you're overwhelmed you go into an unconscious downward spiral. You might not know … Continue reading What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?
A resilient mindset
Seeing the bright side of every situation has it's perks. It's not about pretending that nothing bothers you or acting as though every experience is positive. It's more about adopting the kind of mindset that makes you resilient to the challenges of life. So perhaps in moments of sadness, you can remind yourself that it's … Continue reading A resilient mindset
5 things to do for when you feel stuck
It is really easy to give advice in hindsight or just from an outsiders perspective. However, when you are in the midst of a personal challenge it can be difficult to know how to help yourself in the moment. It's something that takes time and practice. I've had plenty of times when I've felt stuck. … Continue reading 5 things to do for when you feel stuck
Figure out what you need
Through periods of overwhelm it's easy to feel lost and stuck. When there are 101 problems finding a solution can be challenging. Often, the best place to start is by figuring out what you need in the moment. Finish the sentence: When I feel anxious in a crowded place, I need... Perhaps you're in a … Continue reading Figure out what you need
Anxious
In a recent post I wrote about embracing awkward. Shortly after I realised that what I was referring to was anxiety, specifically social anxiety. I then got thinking about what being socially anxious looks like. I think when a person becomes aware of their own behaviour, they can end up amplifying it. You're sitting there … Continue reading Anxious
The Daily Gemm 