I recently saw some things for sale and my first thought was that I wouldn’t buy them. In my opinion the items weren’t worth the price they were being sold for.
But people were buying the items.
Turns out that that even though I didn’t value the items at the price they were being sold for other people did, which got me thinking.
Who determines value?
If you’re selling something for £50 and nobody buys it, is it actually worth £50.
Or does value come from what the customer is willing to pay for it.
In my opinion it is the customer that determines the value because they’re the ones willing to pay for it. However, it is worth noting that just because you’re unable to sell to one group of people, doesn’t mean you’re prices are too high.
It might just mean that those people don’t see the value in what you’re selling.
But maybe another group will.
Now might be the perfect time.
If you find yourself stressed, anxious or overwhelmed, you might also feel a little helpless.
But the chances are you actually have a pretty good idea of what you can do to help yourself.
Rest, put your phone down, turn off your tv or computer, phone a friend, stretch…
However, despite knowing what to do and knowing what will help, we refuse to tend to our own needs.
People will often say things like I don’t have time to rest or I’m too busy to take a break.
But the truth is that mindset comes from not valuing taking care of your well being.
It might feel strange at first but it’s much better for you to regularly rest from life than to be forced to rest every time you work yourself into the ground.
Instead of questioning whether or not you should be maximizing your productivity at this time, it might be more useful to check in with how you feel.
If you spend 3 weeks watching netflix, how will you feel?
If you spend 3 weeks working yourself to the bone, how will you feel?
Chances are you won’t feel great doing either.
As much as it is good to rest you’ll also feel good doing things. Whether that is one task a day like reading x chapters of a book, decluttering a room in your house or starting an online course.
But you don’t need to compete or try and milk this time for all it’s worth. It’s healthy to rest and it’s healthy to do things. You just need to figure out what works for you and go with it.
Can you guess what book I’ve been reading?
Over a year ago (on my other blog, wordsbygemm) I wrote a post about my job.
Looking back, knowing what I now know I kind of regret my words.
Here’s what I wrote: Maybe, it’s strange that I sort of like being a cog in a machine, doing my bit to support the bigger picture.
I didn’t know it at the time but I’d fallen into a fear based trap. I basically wanted a factory job that presented itself as something else because it was in an office and I was at a computer instead of a machine.
I’d go to work sit at my desk, check emails, read documents, chat with colleagues, write letters and occasionally make phone calls. That was all I did on a loop pretty much in any random order depending on the day.
But I’ve since seen the light, I suppose. Firstly my level of contentment with how I was showing up at work wasn’t what I thought it would be. I found myself wanting to more.
And so thanks to me choosing to read Seth Godins book linchpin, I’m understanding how I can be better at what I do.
I want to show up at work and add value not just follow instructions, anyone can do that.
Which one is worth more?
Often feedback is something you ask for whereas criticism is something you get given.
And so there is the idea that criticism is always negative and feedback is useful which in some ways I think is true.
I think that both are worth something if they’re specific and can be used to make improvements but the circumstance should also be considered.
Letting a restaurant know the food arrived cold is worth more than telling an author that their book was bad because you didn’t enjoy it. Nobody enjoys cold food that’s supposed to be hot but there will always be people that like stories about aliens.
And so it’s not a conversation about criticism and feedback but instead objectivity and subjectivity.
In a recent discussion online, I got thinking about how when it comes to information or resources we pay for things that we can get for free.
But what I’ve come to realise is that for me it’s not about getting the information, it’s about doing something with it. When you pay money for something you’re more inclined to use it, unless you don’t mind wasting money.
It’s also about trust and how much we value the resources.
Sometimes we forget that time, effort and care goes into the things people create.
I think we’re more likely to trust and value something with a cost from someone who has given us things we trust and value for free.
To the point where even if we could get something similar for free we’d actually prefer to pay for it.