More connected than ever

If you want to reach me you can call, text, WhatsApp, dm on Twitter or Instagram and even catch me on FB messenger.

We’re more connected than ever with regard to the countless channels that are available. So how ironic is it that it seems like as a society we’re more alone than ever.

I think it’s something to do with technology being used to replace actually having face to face conversations. As much as technology can imitate and replicate person to person interaction as Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell once sang ‘ain’t nothing like the real thing baby’.

You can go on Twitter and see people interacting all day long but then they’ll tweet about feeling lonely.

I think online connections are great as a supplement but not a replacement. Perhaps we actually need the eye contact, the sound of someone’s voice, the pauses between speech and the sight of another living being.

Lazy Daisy

Talking is good but doing is better. Lazy Daisy is more than just a strange song by George Clinton or a pair of words that rhyme it’s a phrase that perfectly sums up a trap that so many of us fall into.

Wanting to start new projects, move to a new house, get a new job, take an evening class, learn to drive, visit a friend, exercise, take a holiday or even meditate.

We live in an era of fake busy where it can feel like you have no free time to do the things you want to do. Or maybe, you just can’t be bothered to do them.

It’s much easier to dedicate your evenings to Netflix than it is to dedicate your evenings to yourself. The latter requires much more effort but it is also significantly more valuable.

Don’t get caught in tapping, swiping and scrolling all day pretending that you’re busy when really you might just need to plug out, put your phone down and stop being a Lazy Daisy.

What do these likes mean to me?

It doesn’t feel particularly good when you upload a picture on Instagram and it gets significantly lower likes than usual. You didn’t post it for the likes but you hoped it would perform as good as usual or at least only slightly lower.

But when your image gets 40% of your average likes, you can’t help but start to question things.

Why is nobody liking my picture?

Did I post at the wrong time?

Was my picture really that bad?

Maybe if I come off Instagram for a little while the likes will be there when I go back to it.

As humans many of us have this habit of attaching meaning and feelings to situations that could be totally neutral. Share a picture because you want to share it and leave it at that.

If you feel some type of way about the numbers of likes you’ve gotten ask yourself ‘What do these likes mean to me?

Often the answer is some form of validation, that what you’ve shared is good enough. Many of us take it one step further and attach that validation to our sense of self.

How to make more time

It’s as simple as assessing how you spend your time and prioritising what matters.

YouTube, twitter, Instagram, Netflix, Amazon prime or maybe even tv are all leeches of time. There’s nothing wrong with them in moderation but how many times have you opened Instagram and found yourself scrolling 30 minutes later with no real recollection of where the times gone.

It sucked away your time and you weren’t even conscious of it happening!

The 2 ways I make more time are
– dedicate a set amount of time each day or week for your project/thing and prioritise it.
– set a limit on how much time you spend watching shows or scrolling media then use all the other time for your project or thing.

Tada, there you have it, more time!

How it feels to be moved

he things you can connect to and resonate with, the things that move you, fill your life with more of that.

I find myself energised, motivated and inspired by certain things. Whereas other things perhaps annoy me or bring out my low mood.

It doesn’t help to consume things that leave you feeling blue. It’s not the kindest way to treat yourself which is why it’s important to remind yourself that you have options.

Social media is a place full of content that can move you, if you let it. It’s great when you’re being moved by something that inspires you or makes you take action on the things you’ve been working on or if it teaches you something new.

On the other hand, if you’re being moved to publish a thread of angry tweets on something you don’t really know about that you’ll regret posting in a week or 2 then maybe think twice about what you choose to follow.

But also think about the ways you’re allowing yourself to be moved. It can be a beautiful thing.

I listened to a podcast recently that moved me to write something and from that I started planning for a future project.

I was moved to create which is something I enjoy and that’s what is important.

The things that move us can have the power to influence us into doing or feeling things we don’t enjoy and a lot of people aren’t even aware.

I think that’s pretty interesting.

The love of reading

I used to love reading and I did it any chance I got. I’d stay up late with a torch reading a book under the covers until I could keep my eyes open no longer and as soon as I woke up I’d start reading again.

It was something so simple that brought me so much joy.

But the older I got the less I read. The time I used to spend reading was replaced by youtube, watching shows online and social media.

Now all of a sudden I’m in my twenties and read 100 times slower and it’s much harder to get engrossed in the books I read.

I think being on my phone and laptop, constantly switching between tabs and apps has trickled over into how I read. Reading is a calm thing that requires focus and time and I don’t give as much attention to those kinds of activities like I used to.

I miss the love of reading I used to have so I’ve decided to try and get it back.

I’m starting with reading to replace some of the time I’d spend watching shows and so far so good.

What was the last book you read?

Spending time

Imagine if you took a break from Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, TV and Facebook.

How much more time would you have each week?

And if you used that time to work on something you truly care about or something that will benefit you like learning a new skill, learning a new language, studying, writing your book or exercising.

Would your life change for the better or worse?