What do you do when you find yourself experiencing the same situations over and over again.
No matter how much your life seems to change you find yourself going through the same old, same old.
Who’s to blame?
Why is it happening?
And most importantly, how do you break the cycle?
I’m going to have start researching more so I can make references but what I do know is that blaming yourself rarely helps.
You don’t need to blame anyone else either. Instead, just know that you can change things.
It happens because our brains get lazy, they love repeating patterns and loops even when they aren’t most beneficial. We handle situations however we know how and sometimes we don’t have the knowledge or tools to react in a way that will be helpful in the long run.
Before you know it, you’re finding yourself in the same situations and reacting similarly to how you first did. Nothing has changed aside from the fact that you’re now 6 years older.
Breaking the cycle starts with acknowledging your circumstances because like a popular song lyric states ‘you can’t fix what you can’t see’. When you find yourself in that familiar situation don’t go into autopilot and just do what you usually do because things will never change that way.
You have to be conscious and self aware enough that you can stop and ask yourself ‘What is the most helpful way for me to respond that will achieve my desired outcome?’
This will be a trial and error thing but the advice I can give is to remember that you have no control over anyone but yourself and when thinking of your desired outcome make it based on how you want to feel.