I recently had a conversation about how sometimes we can be totally unaware of how we are perceived. On one hand how others perceive us may not be considered important or something of value. But on on the other hand it's incredibly useful information. It can highlight where we need to work on our communication … Continue reading The importance of perception
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You cannot not communicate
I've recently been pondering on thoughts about communication that I'll share as some journalling prompts: Who do you communicate best with and why? What stops you communicating when you don't feel good? Do you find it easier to communicate over the phone, in person or through written words? There's an NLP presupposition that goes you … Continue reading You cannot not communicate
NLP changed me
When I first discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), it felt pretty radical. I was going through a difficult time and it helped to have something new to learn about that could in turn help me. I bought a book, read it and it changed my life. It wasn't so different that it felt weird or hard … Continue reading NLP changed me
Pace, pace, Lead
Something I read in a book about NLP. Sometimes I'm a little hesitant to embrace every aspect of NLP because using methods to influence people in your favour is potentially unethical or at least comes across as manipulative. But other times I find that NLP can provide a useful guide on how to word things … Continue reading Pace, pace, Lead
Should we be attached to the outcome?
Yes, no, maybe so. There's a thing in NLP about outcome based actions, that what we do should be based on the outcome we desire. But recently I found myself thinking about how it's important to not be too attached to the way things turn out. At least not to the point where you crash … Continue reading Should we be attached to the outcome?
Is it so wrong to be influenced?
People make careers out of their ability to influence others. There's whole branches of psychology and sections of NLP about how to influence and sway people in whatever direction you desire. In fact people have the ability to make us feel as though we desire the very thing they have to offer and we believe … Continue reading Is it so wrong to be influenced?
Generous projection
When we give to others generously and it isn't received in the way we expected or would have preferred the first instinct might be to find fault in the receiver. But often what is actually happening is we're projecting. In many cases we give to others what we wish we had or could receive rather … Continue reading Generous projection
Same old, same old
What do you do when you find yourself experiencing the same situations over and over again. No matter how much your life seems to change you find yourself going through the same old, same old. Who's to blame? Why is it happening? And most importantly, how do you break the cycle? I'm going to have … Continue reading Same old, same old
Where perspective comes from
There's that story about a bunch of people blindfolded touching different parts of an elephant and describing what it's like. Each description is different yet all are valid. But to the man without a blindfold who can see the animal the others may all be wrong or only partially right. They're each doing their best … Continue reading Where perspective comes from
Role Reversal
In situations that don't turn out how we'd have liked we often tell ourselves that if the roles were reversed we'd have handled things better. When we're observing or experiencing a persons response or reaction to something, we're experiencing it second hand from a different perspective. NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) has a presupposition that says … Continue reading Role Reversal
The Daily Gemm 