How do you come up with something to write about every single day?
Write about your interests and write about your experiences.
The origin of this blog was about picking a small moment of each day and writing about the lesson I took from it.
The small moment could be watching a film I loved as a child, going shopping, baking a cake, a conversation with a stranger or running for the bus.
When I decided I wanted to start daily blogging a little over 3 years ago, I knew I had to decide to write about something that felt easy for me. As much as I didn’t want to be someone who wrote about any and everything, I also knew that I didn’t want to be so niche that I felt restricted to the point where I’d struggle for what to write.
Even when I took a break from blogging, I was still writing, making notes and the ideas just kept flowing.
I think that’s a sign that I did well picking the content for my daily blog. In a recent post, I shared that in 2022, I’ll no longer be daily blogging but I have no doubt that the abundance of ideas I will keep flowing.
If you could choose to shift your perception in order for your life to feel a little more wonderful, would you do it?
Sometimes we’re so bogged down by the challenges we face and the harsh realities of life, we don’t allow ourselves to believe that life can be fun, joyful and sweet.
We see those things as passing moments here and there rather than something that can become our everyday life.
As much as it might seem frustrating a large part of your experience comes from what you choose to focus on. If you’re only focused on the harsh and challenging aspects of life then you’ll end up thinking that there isn’t much else out there. However, we can all choose to see things differently.
It’s not about ignoring the challenges and difficulties but instead remembering that there is so much more to life.
It’s important to pay attention to when things change. Doing this avoids being in a situation where you’re pushing on towards something you may no longer be interested in.
And the more you keep going the further you’ll find yourself from where you’d probably rather be.
Sometimes the way it goes is that we simply just don’t realise in the moment when the change happens. However, things like a regular life audit, journaling or any other kind of reflection are all great tools to make you more aware of what’s happening and how you feel.
As much as you may say you want certain things, you might not want them as much as you think you do.
For example, wanting a dog but not wanting the extra responsibility required. It could be wanting a promotion but not the mentoring and leadership you’ll be required to give to colleagues once you’re higher up in the company.
It can actually end up being for the best to not get what you want because when you get it you won’t really want it. Sometimes we only realise this in hindsight. However, I like to believe that is the reason why certain things just don’t work out.
It might be frustrating in the moment but you’ll be much better off getting what you want instead of getting what you think you want.
Letting go can be scary, terrifying in fact. But, once you start doing it and especially if you start with something big, it gets a lot easier.
This happens because you realise that you’re completely fine without the thing you thought you needed.
However, when you’re caught up in the moment going back and forth over whether not not to let something go. it’s difficult. Sometimes no amount of reassurance and advice is enough to make you believe that things will turn out okay.
Perhaps, you believed that your whole world would implode, that you’d be miserable or that nothing good better could come into your life. And maybe you do feel that way for a little while after but then things will start to change. Eventually you’ll find yourself pretty happy with your decision, a weight will have been lifted off your shoulders and maybe you’ll even wish you’d made the choice to let go sooner.
And sometimes you realise that you’ve changed. Maybe few years ago or even just last year you’d have said nothing, said it was fine and pushed how you felt aside. You may have been upset, hurt or just frustrated but you were too afraid to show it for fear of your feelings being invalidated.
But now you’re different, you’re not waiting for someone else and you’re not relying on validation. It probably feels empowering because after all this time you’re finally using your voice and speaking your mind.
For everyone else in your life, this may come as a shock because they’re so used to you hiding away and being okay with everything. The shock of others can be enough for some to revert to their old ways, especially if there is a fear of losing people. However, speaking your mind is important, you don’t need to be in a constant state of ‘good’, ‘fine’, ‘not too bad’ or ‘alright’.
Maybe you’re not alright and of course you’ll feel better later but why not honour how you feel in the moment and express it.
If you spend too much time focusing on the wrong thing, you’ll miss out on the chance to enjoy the moment.
Of course you never want to push aside or dismiss problems that need to be solved or worries that feel important but they don’t have to always be a priority.
There will always be 101 things you can worry about but you don’t need to always worry.
As much as you make time for that, make time for the stuff that makes you feel good and just enjoy the moment.
There are moments in life that you daydream about and hold dear even though they haven’t happened yet.
But eventually the stars align and the dream moments that you once longed for are brought to life.
Sometimes we find ourselves overjoyed when the reality matched up to our dreams. Other times we find ourselves disappointed because the reality has fallen short of our daydreams.
When you’ve built up something in your mind to be this amazing and wonderful thing, anything less just won’t do. And so even if the dream moment is actually pretty good in reality, it’ll never be good enough.
In life there are small wonderful moments that remind you to trust that everything is always working itself out.
These moments occur almost randomly yet they’re in perfect synchronicity.
It’s so easy to get caught up in ‘the overwhelm’. The overwhelm is the stress, anxiety and fear that occurs in life. These occurrences may be big or small but often we hold onto them much tighter than we need to and we let them consume us.
And then suddenly something happens like you notice a beautiful flower, you receive a message from someone you hold dear or something makes you laugh.
It’s always something small but it’s more than enough to totally transform your day.
Setting goal or making plans for the coming year might seem like a waste of time. We’re in a period of great uncertainty and many of us may have already experienced a long list of things we planned to do in 2020 remain undone.
However, I think a lot of people did much more than they thought they would but in different ways. There was less focus on social activities, in person events and travel but perhaps more emphasis on wellbeing and personal growth.
Maybe this year you started a business, started a project, volunteered, overcame unexpected challenges, read some interesting books, discovered new interests, learned a new skill, developed your confidence, started a new job, got a promotion, visited a new city, bought a house, made new friends, tried some new recipes or figured out what you really want to do with your life.
Some of the things you did this year might seem small or meaningless but you still did them. It’s easy to forget afternoons spent catching up with your favourite people in a cafe, solo dance parties and endless laughter with siblings when you’re focusing on all the concerts you booked that got cancelled or all the places you never got to travel to.
And so for 2021, don’t be afraid to make plans or set intentions for the kind of year you want to have.
The beginning of a new year is as good a time as any to at least check-in, recalibrate and ensure that the life you’re living is leading you in the direction that you want to go in.