It is really easy to give advice in hindsight or just from an outsiders perspective. However, when you are in the midst of a personal challenge it can be difficult to know how to help yourself in the moment. It’s something that takes time and practice.
I’ve had plenty of times when I’ve felt stuck. Sometimes sitting around, wallowing and doing the bare minimum feels like the only thing that you can muster the effort for. However, if you’re willing to step outside of yourself and whatever situation you’re in you’ll see that there are plenty of other things you can do that would be much more useful.
Doing a workout because endorphins make you feel good.
Going for a walk in nature because nature is a healer or will at least help you feel calm.
Venting to someone that won’t give advice because often you just want to be heard and don’t need someone to tell you what to do.
Have a solo dance party because your favourite music will always brighten your day.
Journaling to work through your feelings because it helps bring clarity.
The workplace can often just feel like one long game with lots of rules. For many people following these rules requires changing perhaps to the point of doing things that you don’t really want to do.
So, how much should you change for the sake of career progression?
If you feel like you have to become someone else or play up to the idea of who people think that you should be to have the career you want, you probably won’t be happy when you get it.
Some people understand the game and are willing to play it whilst others find the cheat codes and figure out how to work things their favour. Then there are the ones who understand the game but aren’t willing to play it and lastly the ones that have no awareness of the game whatsoever.
I have a lot of beliefs about work and the kind of career I want.
In a past experience, after discovering the game and attempting to play it, I realised that I didn’t want to.
If you have to change to progress in your career it’ll only be worth it if you like the person you’re becoming. Playing the game can be fun but it can also be exhausting. It might be for some people but others are better off stopping and finding a place to work with a game they enjoy playing or better yet no game at all.
Create cohesive content
You don’t have to write about a single topic but you don’t want your posst to feel like they belong to 5 different blogs.
It could be daily, weekly or monthly posts. Find a schdule that works for you and then stick to it.
Find your audience
You might use Twitter, Instagram, Tik Tok, word of mouth, LinkedIn or an event. You don’t need to spend endless hours marketing yourself but it is useful to have some idea of where to find the people your content is being made for.
Keep things simple
Make creating a blog post from start to finish as easy as possible, this could be through having content planning days, keeping a week or month ahead of schedule or having a blog post creation checklist so you always know exactly what you need to do.
This has nothing to do with sharing personal details of your life but instead it’s about not trying to hard to do something that doesn’t feel natural. Blogging is so much more enjoyable when you allow yourself to just be whether that is wrting about social media, reviewing designer purchases or documenting your journey to becoming a more mindful consumer.
Sister post to 5 reasons your blog might not be going as well as you’d hoped.
How do you come up with something to write about every single day?
Write about your interests and write about your experiences.
The origin of this blog was about picking a small moment of each day and writing about the lesson I took from it.
The small moment could be watching a film I loved as a child, going shopping, baking a cake, a conversation with a stranger or running for the bus.
When I decided I wanted to start daily blogging a little over 3 years ago, I knew I had to decide to write about something that felt easy for me. As much as I didn’t want to be someone who wrote about any and everything, I also knew that I didn’t want to be so niche that I felt restricted to the point where I’d struggle for what to write.
Even when I took a break from blogging, I was still writing, making notes and the ideas just kept flowing.
I think that’s a sign that I did well picking the content for my daily blog. In a recent post, I shared that in 2022, I’ll no longer be daily blogging but I have no doubt that the abundance of ideas I will keep flowing.
People, like plants need room to grow.
I think in the same way that plants outgrow their pots, we as people outgrow our environments.
The issue arises when we end up staying in spaces where we don’t have room to be ourselves. You end up stifled and limited. Often, you end up thinking that you need to change, be less of yourself and more of what other people want you to be.
But, no matter what you do, it still doesn’t quite work. It’s easy to underestimate how much of an impact your environment can have on you, especially when the focus tends to be on the inner self.
A change of environment can feel like cheating because sometimes we tell ourselves we need to ‘stick it out’ but maybe a change is exactly what you need.
I recently unsubscribed from an email list. Afterwards, I got thinking about why I did it for that particular brand and why I’d do it in general.
We all already get way too many emails and so an additional 5 a week from a company you bought hair products from once and don’t plan to buy from again is just too much.
Just because we place one order with a company, doesn’t mean we’re interested in their email marketing. We might want updates on sales or new products they come out with but everything else is just annoying.
And lastly, we want to feel respected. Just because someone now has our email when we’re being bombarded with emails every few days or even weekly it feels like excessive. I think we’d all much rather read emails that feel important to us (not just to the person sending them) even if their intention is to get us to buy more stuff.
But the more emails we get the less helpful it feels and so we decide that we’d rather have no emails at all and we click unsubscribe.
As the year begins comes to a close now is the perfect time to tie up any lose ends so you can start fresh in the new year.
For me that includes going over my goals and reflecting on what I was able to achieve, what I need more time to work on and what I’m no longer interested in doing.
Once that’s done, I’ll move on to thinking about what I’d like to do for the year ahead.
It also important to remember that even if you didn’t manage to do everything on your list, there are plenty of things you did this year that weren’t apart of your goals. To combat this it can also be useful to note down achievements or highlights at the end of each month. That’ll provide a fuller picture of all that you managed to do because it’s easy to forget.
For those that consider themselves to be awkward and those that are self conscious of how they appear to others, being yourself can be difficult.
However, it turns out that the only way to overcome it is to embrace yourself with open arms.
Awkwardness is always amplified when you focus on it.
On the flipside, if you just focus on being yourself and provide a soft and gentle space where you let go of this idea of everything being perfect, it makes things easier.
It could be stumbling over your words when you approach someone new, your idea being shutdown in a meeting, being rejected, falling over in public or someone not getting your humour.
Nobody wants those things to happen but they’re not as bad as we make them out to be.
We can get so caught up in how we feel about ourselves and wanting to be seen a certain way that we assume things matter so much more than they do.
Your new idea might get shut down and whilst you’re now letting your inner monologue play out and tell you to never contribute again, someone else is thinking it was great idea or wishes that they’d had the confidence to contribute or even just come up with an idea.
This post is titled embracing awkward but you’re probably better off letting go of the labels and instead just embrace being yourself.
Sometimes we find the in life we get so swept up in the exciting, fun and challenging aspects of life that we kind of forget about the basics, we end up off track.
I think this happens to everyone every now and then. It’s important to firstly understand what on track looks like for you and then secondly to know what you need to do to get back on track.
For me, being on track means things like having a set morning routine, having slow Sundays where I’m relaxed, eating regular meals and going to bed before I feel sleepy instead of just passing out around midnight.
In terms of getting back on track, I understand that it’s more based around how I’m feeling rather than what I’m doing. In terms of quick things to do when I feel off track, things like my morning mantra, meditation, EFT, tidying my space or writing a to-do list all make great starting points.
I generally find that when I start with one small thing I’m able to then move on and do other things sort of like a domino effect.