It might feel like the end of the world but…

…I promise you it’s not.

Challenges are a part of life. And as much as you get frustrated when things don’t go to plan there’s a part of you that enjoys the experience.

You might think you’ve encountered something you can’t overcome but that could be because you’ve never done it before not because you can’t do it.

So give it a try and know that the your world won’t fall apart if things don’t go to plan.

And the kind of exciting thing is that if one plan doesn’t work out you can create a new one.

Granted it’s not exciting in the moment but give it time and you’ll see.

 

The second time around

It’ll almost always be easier.

Yet we often end up worrying about how wrong things went the first time and then history just ends up repeating itself.

And then we start to lose faith in our ability, thinking that things are impossible, that we are incapable.

The inner monologue gets carried away and you know exactly what that sounds like.

But what if the second time around we begin with a short reflection on the pros and cons of our previous approach and then create an outcome based action plan.

Taking a optimistic future oriented approach might just be more beneficial.

Tortured writers and the appeal of tragedy

And sometimes we write simply out of necessity.

It’s not that we have groundbreaking points to make or ideas to share but instead that we feel drawn to putting pen to paper or tapping away at keys.

It’s something we do for ourselves, everyone else is secondary because no matter how many people read, comment or enjoy these words they don’t really know what it took to pour them out.

I think that in a lot of ways that’s exactly how it should be.

We all go through things in life but some of us just choose to express it through the medium of words or maybe the words chose us.

But we don’t have to be these tortured writers who know nothing more than the tragedies of life. When we focus too much on being that way we fall into thinking that we need those things in order to write.

We think that no good words can come from days of sunshine and laughter which causes us to constantly seek out experiences that evoke feelings that get us to that mental place of tortured-ness.

On the other hand maybe we’re already in that place and writing is the only thing that helps.

The path of most resistance

Most of us have things that we want to achieve in this life and some of us are willing to work extremely hard for what we want.

We’ll sacrifice a lot of things and even go through periods or excessive stress or discomfort in order to reach the light at the end of the tunnel.

In some ways it’s like we take the path of most resistance. We know we could live an easier life but we choose otherwise because we’re not just dreamers we’re do-ers.

But at the end of the day, what’s it worth?

Is putting yourself through a great challenge worth it in the hope that you’ll overcome it.

Of course if you make sacrifices and are able to upgrade your life tenfold then you’ll believe it was worth it.

But don’t get caught in believing that you need to struggle to justify your success.

 

Call yourself out

Maybe you’ve been slacking with your time and attention lately. Cancelling plans, showing up late, knowingly giving the minimum effort required. But it’s in such a way, almost a subtle way that it’s not enough for anyone to call you out.

So, instead of waiting for someone else to do it, call yourself out.

Maybe write down what’s been going on in your life, talk to a friend, family member colleague or a professional. Answer things like what’s been going well, what hasn’t been going well, what have you been giving most of your time/energy to.

Lastly what are some things you can do to get out of the slump you’re in? These aren’t going to be one off quick fixes but instead things to do regularly over at least a couple of weeks before you’ll start to see results.

Some examples could be:

Meditate 
A perfect tool for anyone who needs to settle their mind.

Go to bed earlier
Yes, sleep is important and if your having trouble sleeping try winding down before bed with a book, meditation or essential oils.

Have a morning routine
It leaves less room for decision making and it means you start each day with direction.

Go for a walk every day
Something so simple that often works wonders.

Cut out/reduce watching Youtube or TV shows
Try doing something creative instead of just watching what others have created.

Drink more water
Because it’s good for you and most of us don’t get enough.

Journal
Letting out your inner thoughts is a great release.

Take a day off
Maybe you’re burnt out and what you need is to relax.

The great thing about calling yourself out is you give yourself the opportunity to take responsibility and change things, how great is that!

Even if it all falls apart

I hold the belief that even if it all falls apart, everything will always be okay.

Which means that I often don’t give things as much effort as I could or should because I’m aware that everything will be okay, no matter the outcome.

When we take advantage of our circumstances life has this way of reminding us that we should make time for gratitude.

It might come in the form of something ‘going wrong’ or having to deal with an un-ideal circumstance. It’s in those moments that we can end up getting frustrated at life for dealing us such a poor hand or we can use it as a growth point.

I’m currently experiencing…

It’s difficult because…

It is teaching me…

Moving forward I will…

 

Where I go

I feel like anyone that blogs daily has this mental space that they go to when they’re writing.

For me I tap into my inner monologue. It’s always running and so I simply stop and pay attention to it for long enough to write a hundred words or so.

For the most part it’s easy to do, to pay attention to my thoughts and write about them.

But sometimes getting to that place isn’t so easy because we get caught in trying to be perfect or underestimating our own abilities.

The amazing thing is that, no matter how you feel you always have access to that place.