Call yourself out

Maybe you’ve been slacking with your time and attention lately. Cancelling plans, showing up late, knowingly giving the minimum effort required. But it’s in such a way, almost a subtle way that it’s not enough for anyone to call you out.

So, instead of waiting for someone else to do it, call yourself out.

Maybe write down what’s been going on in your life, talk to a friend, family member colleague or a professional. Answer things like what’s been going well, what hasn’t been going well, what have you been giving most of your time/energy to.

Lastly what are some things you can do to get out of the slump you’re in? These aren’t going to be one off quick fixes but instead things to do regularly over at least a couple of weeks before you’ll start to see results.

Some examples could be:

Meditate 
A perfect tool for anyone who needs to settle their mind.

Go to bed earlier
Yes, sleep is important and if your having trouble sleeping try winding down before bed with a book, meditation or essential oils.

Have a morning routine
It leaves less room for decision making and it means you start each day with direction.

Go for a walk every day
Something so simple that often works wonders.

Cut out/reduce watching Youtube or TV shows
Try doing something creative instead of just watching what others have created.

Drink more water
Because it’s good for you and most of us don’t get enough.

Journal
Letting out your inner thoughts is a great release.

Take a day off
Maybe you’re burnt out and what you need is to relax.

The great thing about calling yourself out is you give yourself the opportunity to take responsibility and change things, how great is that!

Even if it all falls apart

I hold the belief that even if it all falls apart, everything will always be okay.

Which means that I often don’t give things as much effort as I could or should because I’m aware that everything will be okay, no matter the outcome.

When we take advantage of our circumstances life has this way of reminding us that we should make time for gratitude.

It might come in the form of something ‘going wrong’ or having to deal with an un-ideal circumstance. It’s in those moments that we can end up getting frustrated at life for dealing us such a poor hand or we can use it as a growth point.

I’m currently experiencing…

It’s difficult because…

It is teaching me…

Moving forward I will…

 

Where I go

I feel like anyone that blogs daily has this mental space that they go to when they’re writing.

For me I tap into my inner monologue. It’s always running and so I simply stop and pay attention to it for long enough to write a hundred words or so.

For the most part it’s easy to do, to pay attention to my thoughts and write about them.

But sometimes getting to that place isn’t so easy because we get caught in trying to be perfect or underestimating our own abilities.

The amazing thing is that, no matter how you feel you always have access to that place.

Getting started

Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by all the things that I could be doing that I just don’t’t know where to start. And so I do nothing and then get frustrated at the time I’ve wasted.

It’s not what I would call laziness because I’m often fine once I get started. Instead, it’s this feeling of ‘Where do I begin?’ I think it also is one of things where I want to do a big thing rather than loads of little tasks but I forget that doing all the small  things will have a big impact.

And so I suppose the advice I’d give to anyone else that gets this feeling is to just start.

Then keep going.

Giving up

Sometimes when things look difficult the first thing you want to do is give up.

After all there’s no way you can do it. You’re not smart enough, you’ll fail or someone else can do it better than you.

But sometimes it’s more than that. Maybe the truth is that this difficult thing will force you to challenge yourself and you won’t have the option to hide away.

You’ll have to accept that there’s nothing wrong with not being good at something, with having to ask for help or with not being confident with something that is new.

There is vulnerability in taking on new challenges and knowing that they will force you to grow.

It might be scary but it could be a good thing.

When things don’t go to plan

It’s impossible to be prepared for every possible life circumstance that can arise. We don’t plan for people being unwell, long’term unemployment, falling into a depression, someone stealing your bag etc.

But the more I experience different aspects of life I’m learning to be okay with things that happen.

I remember years ago writing the words ‘I can’t control the the things that are out of my control.’

It’s pretty obvious when you think about it and despite knowing that we can’t control everything that happens we often end up still feeling this sense of helplessness.

Around 6 months ago someone stole my bag and I felt helpless but also annoyed. Some stranger now had the lip gloss I’d bought less than a week ago along with my journal.

Whoever took my bag probably hoped to steal something a little more significant so no doubt they were disappointed with what they found as 2 days later my bag was found on the street.

Things didn’t go to plan for them either.

Molly my-way

I once new someone who’s infamous line was ‘But why?’.

It made for a difficult relationship when you were questioned every time you said know. It would go something like can you (insert favour here)? I’d reply no, then be hit with but why, I’d say I don’t want to and be hit with but why again.

It was incredibly frustrating and even years later I’m irked greatly and become incredibly sharp when people don’t take no for an answer.

What really got me was that I was terrified of ever rocking  the boat so saying no was a big deal. When my no wasn’t accepted it felt like it wasn’t ‘safe’ for me to be myself because when I tried it was being rejected.

So I suppose I’m still moved by those past experiences. But what I’m learning that the lesson is to be okay with saying no without any attachment to how the recipient responds because you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.