It's important to have aspirations. It's also important not to create a sense of separation between where you are and where you want to be. I like to think of it as six degrees of separation but for life aspirations. You're never so far from the life that you want. For example, most of us … Continue reading Six degrees of separation
Tag: beliefs
NLP changed me
When I first discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), it felt pretty radical. I was going through a difficult time and it helped to have something new to learn about that could in turn help me. I bought a book, read it and it changed my life. It wasn't so different that it felt weird or hard … Continue reading NLP changed me
Debunking myths about writers
There is this idea about writers, infact it applies to creatives in general. The idea is that our best work comes from a place of negative experience that serves as the poker that stokes our flames of creativity. I enjoy writing about being a writer, mainly because it's a title I struggle to attach to … Continue reading Debunking myths about writers
Lessons in solitude
In the company of one as in you, yourself and um you, there are many valuable lessons to learn. It could be something as simple as seeing yourself as you are instead of through how you are in interactions with other people. You could learn that despite being agreeable and generally follow the lead of … Continue reading Lessons in solitude
There is no right decision
Many people feel a lot of anxiety when it comes to making decisions. I've written quite a few posts about the anxiety that can be felt around making decisions, choosing pathways and picking between different options. One of my beliefs when it comes to making decisions that I created a few years ago is that, … Continue reading There is no right decision
Accepting less
Why do people accept less than they truly desire? I think it comes from a lack of belief that you can attain the things that you want. Instead of being clear and saying no, you say yes because you don't believe there is any other choice. I think the fact that deep inside you know … Continue reading Accepting less
The perception of right and wrong
One of the mistakes we often make is thinking that there is only one solution to every problem. And so, when the way a person chooses to solve a problem does not match up with what we believe the solution to be we can end up being critical and telling them they are wrong. In … Continue reading The perception of right and wrong
What’s missing?
I'm a big believer in creativity, in art and in making things. That's the thing that has always been my joy in life. It's not something that I do for a living or get paid for. However, I value it just as much, if not more than my day job. It feels special to make … Continue reading What’s missing?
You have to be willing to change your mind
It's more important than you might have considered. When it comes to your opinions, beliefs and life plans, you have to be willing to change your mind. You never want to be so set in your ways that you close yourself off to other options. Sometimes when you're so committed to what you know, it … Continue reading You have to be willing to change your mind
Lowering expectations
There are good arguments to support both sides. On one hand perhaps you should lower your expectations because they're too high. Examples of this could be expecting to earn £50,000 as a graduate with no experience or expecting a friend to reduce their rates even though you know the quality of their work will be … Continue reading Lowering expectations