Or perhaps the title should read ‘How to be eternally disappointed‘.
I don’t believe in working yourself to the bone (well it’s not for me anyway) however if your expectations are sky high, you might have to.
You can’t sit around passively going through life like a sociological ritualist and expecting the world.
You’ll only end up disappointed.
You can’t be half-hearted either.
You gotta go, go, go with full gusto.
But to avoid burnout you have to be smart about your approach and find ways to be productive and get things done whilst maintaining your overall well-being.
A few ideas are to have set working times, get at least 7 hours sleep a night and make time to do something relaxing like meditate, get a massage, or go for a walk.
There’s something about the word ‘manifestation’ or ‘manifest’ that has me furrowing my brows and more than willing to roll my eyeballs the whole 360. I began to notice the word around the time when everyone got into that book ‘The Secret’ and the law of attraction.
Suddenly people were declaring that you can attract whatever you want or desire by just thinking about it. According to them it was easy, as easy as cherry pie.
Maybe my reluctance to ‘get on board’ had something to do with my personal circumstances at the time, the fact that I can be a little cynical or maybe I just felt like there had to be more to it.
But then years later I started to notice a common thread in the events occurring in my life. Things I had once written down, daydreamed about or visualised started to happen in real life with total ease and no physical effort on my part.
Yet in parallel there were also things happening in my life that were sort of like misinterpretations of what I wanted.
As someone who likes to find a way of understanding things even if there is no scientific evidence to support my idea, I managed to figure out the cause of these ‘misinterpretations’.
These misinterpretations were simply an error in the programming where the output didn’t match the input, except for it did. These misinterpretations were happening in the areas of my life where I was most uncertain or conflicted about what I truly wanted.
At the time I was reading a book and it contained a whole section on setting intentions. It mentioned being clear, describing things though the 5 senses and focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want.
I suppose to summarise I can say that I believe in visualisation and writing things down. My own life is living proof that it works but if you aren’t clear about what you want you might end up something you’re not quite satisfied with.
I was recently reminded that no, I do not always need to push through and continue on as normal if I’m not feeling well.
I decided to take a much needed break and just rest. I lay in bed and drifted in and out of slumber, reflected on how I was feeling within myself and drank ginger tea.
It felt amazing to not have pushed on with working, studying and writing. Granted writing doesn’t take much out of me physically but I also needed to give my mind a rest which I don’t do enough.
As I lay in bed with my fleece on and a blanket at my feet with no phone, book, laptop or pen and paper, I realised that this simple act of nothingness had become a rarity in my life.
It was like a sort of informal mediation. It was much needed and I couldn’t help but think what a shame it was that it took me feeling unwell to simply take a moment for myself.
I was taking a walk on my lunch break one afternoon when I saw someone I kind of hoped to never see again, or at least I thought I saw them.
To my surprise in that moment I felt a change in my body, a feeling of discomfort. As I kept walking, I began to think about how much things have the ability to move us.
How secure are we in ourselves that everyday moments don’t greatly impact us?
Are we walking around and carrying this mental practice of only feeling good when certain things are happening?
I think it’s good to really pay attention to how your body physically feels as you go through daily life. Often we end up holding onto little things and carrying them in our bodies which can eventually lead to physical ailments.
So, just pay attention and when stuff comes up find a way to shake it off and not allow it to impact your day.