There's a choice to be made that sometimes ends up being a sacrifice. It's possible to have security and happiness but people often make choices that prioritise one over the other. They do this for reasons such as fear, a lack of self belief or because they have people relying on them. It becomes difficult … Continue reading Security over happiness
Tag: self belief
Getting back on track
Getting back on track often requires you to put in the work to make up for the fact that you've fallen behind. You may start off slow then build up momentum until suddenly you're working twice as hard. And this hard work is required because you've made a commitment, you've made a choice about what … Continue reading Getting back on track
Putting yourself out there
You refuse to put yourself out there because you're afraid of being rejected. Meanwhile, you're also not allowing people to accept the real you. Rejection is a part of life, you're not for everyone it's okay, it's nothing to be afraid of. Don't get so caught up in the people that don't want you, they're … Continue reading Putting yourself out there
Start valuing your voice
The way that you show up in the world is likely to be imapcted by your confidence and self esteem. Perhaps you play small and avoid doing things that will draw any attention even though you have ideas and opinions to share. But the reason you don't share your ideas is because you don't value … Continue reading Start valuing your voice
Lowering expectations
There are good arguments to support both sides. On one hand perhaps you should lower your expectations because they're too high. Examples of this could be expecting to earn £50,000 as a graduate with no experience or expecting a friend to reduce their rates even though you know the quality of their work will be … Continue reading Lowering expectations
Settling with age
Most of us start out with big dreams of what we want to do with our lives. Then slowly, bit by bit, as the years go on we start to settle. We settle from setbacks that lower our self-belief until you've convinced yourself that they were unrealistic anyway. Other times you have people tell you … Continue reading Settling with age
How to change your life
It's really easy to say, 'That's just how I am'. Some people even use that as a way to justify continually being unkind to others or even themselves. But the beauty of life is that we have the opportunity to change and overcome. I recently wrote about not feeling good enough, something I struggled with … Continue reading How to change your life
Looking to the future
In challenging times it can be difficult to look to the future and think about all the possibilities. Your mind will be going round in circles and you'll be asking yourself questions like: How can I get there when there is all this stuff going on right now? When you're caught up in a challenging … Continue reading Looking to the future
Self help
Perhaps when you were young, someone taught you that when you feel overwhelmed, step away and give yourself a moment. Maybe you grew up practising that and maybe you didn't. If you didn't you might find that as an adult when you feel overwhelmed you don't quite know how to handle it. The feeling might … Continue reading Self help
Getting across the beam
We often underestimate the role that belief plays in our development. But the truth is you could be so much more if only you believed. Take something as seemingly insignificant as walking across a balancing beam. The people that make it from one side to the other will be the ones that believe they can … Continue reading Getting across the beam