In the past I've written about being open to the possibilities of life. It starts with a mindset that is then followed by actions. The idea is that life is not so stiff and rigid like we can often end up being. There are infinite pathways, options and choices. And when you embrace that and … Continue reading It starts with a mindset
Whilst thinking about the idea of missing out on certain aspects of life, an interesting thought came to me. What if it's the feeling we missed out on, not the thing itself. Think about how 2 people can do something totally different but it brings up the same feeling. Or about how you can do … Continue reading The feeling not the thing
Last year I published a blog post titled 'In search of community'. Over a year has passed so i thought I'd share a little update. This year I realised that I'm already part of a couple of communities, I just hadn't been making enough time and space to show up and connect with the other … Continue reading You might already have what you’re seeking
I've often found that the feeling of anxiety grows and becomes more heightened when questions go unasked. When we have uncertainty it creates a gap. And for those that are prone to anxiety that gap gets filled with pessimistic possibilities. Often once the feeling of anxiety has started to grow, asking questions feels too difficult … Continue reading Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
Around a month or so ago, an idea came to me that I found really useful. The idea was that situations that emotionally charge us are a reminder to focus on ourselves. Instead of getting caught up in the moment, feeling bad or worrying, take some time to check in with yourself. Perhaps you were … Continue reading How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
When you're working on yourself, it can be easy to overlook the progress you're making. Sometimes it can feel as if nothing has changed. It's not until you find yourself in a challenging situation and you are able to manage it so differently compared to in the past, that you realise the work you have … Continue reading How to tell if it’s working?
Well not yet anyway. I consume a lot of YouTube and social media content, most of which comes with comments. Something I've learnt is that reading the comments before watching the content can totally skew your view. You might not even realise that your opinion is not your own but simply a mix of the … Continue reading Don’t read the comments
When I first discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), it felt pretty radical. I was going through a difficult time and it helped to have something new to learn about that could in turn help me. I bought a book, read it and it changed my life. It wasn't so different that it felt weird or hard … Continue reading NLP changed me
People that are used to people pleasing know what it's like to put their own wants and needs aside. Sometimes, you convince yourself that you're just compromising to find a balance. This is fine, until you realise that you're the only one willing to change. This could all be with one person or apply to … Continue reading Bent out of shape
A running theme throughout a lot of my posts (and what has become the baseline for this blog) is this idea of life's challenges and difficult moments having a lesson or a takeaway. Having this perspective completely changes your life. You go from things like blaming other people, being overly self critical, treating yourself unkindly … Continue reading A life changing perspective