If something didn't work out the way you wanted and you feel bad about it and you can't seem to shake the feeling, what can you do to help yourself? I often find myself in a place of limbo trying to find balance between the more practical side of me and the part of me … Continue reading Finding the right perspective
Sometimes we focus so much on how we are perceived that we don't give ourselves permission to just be. Everything you do, every aspect of your life is scrutinised through the lens of the others as you do your best to please and appease them. It could be the way that you dress, your hair, … Continue reading Useless opinions
Optimists, Pessimists and Dreamers
I think that there are 2 kinds of dreamers. One is the optimist and the other is the pessimist. The optimist sees being a dreamer as a form of visualisation. That time spent with their head in the clouds is really just them being open to the possibilities of life and finding something that they … Continue reading Optimists, Pessimists and Dreamers
It doesn’t have to last forever
Some of the resistance to starting something new is the fear that it won't work out. Yet, you'll never have the chance to see your idea flourish unless you're willing to give it go. In order to do this you have to shift your mindset to one where your intention is simply to bring a … Continue reading It doesn’t have to last forever
It starts with a mindset
In the past I've written about being open to the possibilities of life. It starts with a mindset that is then followed by actions. The idea is that life is not so stiff and rigid like we can often end up being. There are infinite pathways, options and choices. And when you embrace that and … Continue reading It starts with a mindset
The feeling not the thing
Whilst thinking about the idea of missing out on certain aspects of life, an interesting thought came to me. What if it's the feeling we missed out on, not the thing itself. Think about how 2 people can do something totally different but it brings up the same feeling. Or about how you can do … Continue reading The feeling not the thing
You might already have what you’re seeking
Last year I published a blog post titled 'In search of community'. Over a year has passed so i thought I'd share a little update. This year I realised that I'm already part of a couple of communities, I just hadn't been making enough time and space to show up and connect with the other … Continue reading You might already have what you’re seeking
Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
I've often found that the feeling of anxiety grows and becomes more heightened when questions go unasked. When we have uncertainty it creates a gap. And for those that are prone to anxiety that gap gets filled with pessimistic possibilities. Often once the feeling of anxiety has started to grow, asking questions feels too difficult … Continue reading Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
Around a month or so ago, an idea came to me that I found really useful. The idea was that situations that emotionally charge us are a reminder to focus on ourselves. Instead of getting caught up in the moment, feeling bad or worrying, take some time to check in with yourself. Perhaps you were … Continue reading How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
How to tell if it’s working?
When you're working on yourself, it can be easy to overlook the progress you're making. Sometimes it can feel as if nothing has changed. It's not until you find yourself in a challenging situation and you are able to manage it so differently compared to in the past, that you realise the work you have … Continue reading How to tell if it’s working?