Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp are all so heavily integrated into our daily lives that to be without them (even just for a few hours) is difficult. Suddenly, you're having to figure out what to do with your time instead of spending it scrolling. Conversations that have been going for days or even weeks have now … Continue reading None of it matters as much you think it does
Tag: life
Put yourself first
People that are considerate of others, to the point of putting others before themselves often end up feeling let down. This occurs when they base their expectations of how others should be on themselves. But not everyone is as considerate as you might be. Not everyone thinks about how other people may be impacted. Sometimes … Continue reading Put yourself first
Willing to walk away
When it comes to asking for what you want, if you don't get it, what do you do next? Are you willing to walk away? I think that sometimes problems arise when we aren't willing to be firm. We say we want something, don't get it and then just continue on as normal. But I … Continue reading Willing to walk away
Security over happiness
There's a choice to be made that sometimes ends up being a sacrifice. It's possible to have security and happiness but people often make choices that prioritise one over the other. They do this for reasons such as fear, a lack of self belief or because they have people relying on them. It becomes difficult … Continue reading Security over happiness
You can’t be for everyone
Sometimes in an effort to be inclusive, the original message gets lost in translation. Maybe the goal is to help a specific group of people but then over time that specific group becomes less and less specific until it now includes everyone. This makes things difficult because all these groups have different wants and needs … Continue reading You can’t be for everyone
Setting boundaries badly
I think a big reason why we sometimes avoid setting boundaries is because we think don't know how to do it. However, it turns out the setting boundaries is like everything else, getting good takes practice. And so like Zig Ziglar said 'anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you can learn to do … Continue reading Setting boundaries badly
Paying attention
It's important to pay attention to when things change. Doing this avoids being in a situation where you're pushing on towards something you may no longer be interested in. And the more you keep going the further you'll find yourself from where you'd probably rather be. Sometimes the way it goes is that we simply … Continue reading Paying attention
Letting things pile up
Little problems can suddenly become big problems. It is so important to address things in the moment instead of brushing them off, waiting or saying nothing. When you do this you'll find that days, weeks or even months later you're bringing stuff up that were (according to the other person) not an issue when they … Continue reading Letting things pile up
Getting what you want
As much as you may say you want certain things, you might not want them as much as you think you do. For example, wanting a dog but not wanting the extra responsibility required. It could be wanting a promotion but not the mentoring and leadership you'll be required to give to colleagues once you're … Continue reading Getting what you want
Outcome based actions
If you want someone to trust you then getting angry when they try to open up won't help. It is so important that what you do reflects the way you want things to turn out, otherwise what's the point? You can't just go around doing whatever you want and expecting or hoping that everything will … Continue reading Outcome based actions
The Daily Gemm 