We are often taught that we need to become something. We're taught that we need to change. This often involves working harder and doing more. We place labels on ourselves, feeling as though we need more and more. We cover ourselves in labels as though too much is not enough. But the true self is … Continue reading The unbecoming
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Worth sticking up for
How many times have you held your tongue or put the needs of others before your own? Often the idea of being selfless is something that is praised but the reality is that it's often just self-sacrifice. When the person that puts others first is around people that put themselves first, they end up losing. … Continue reading Worth sticking up for
Anxious
In a recent post I wrote about embracing awkward. Shortly after I realised that what I was referring to was anxiety, specifically social anxiety. I then got thinking about what being socially anxious looks like. I think when a person becomes aware of their own behaviour, they can end up amplifying it. You're sitting there … Continue reading Anxious
Setting boundaries badly
I think a big reason why we sometimes avoid setting boundaries is because we think don't know how to do it. However, it turns out the setting boundaries is like everything else, getting good takes practice. And so like Zig Ziglar said 'anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you can learn to do … Continue reading Setting boundaries badly
Open to exploring
Who you are does not have to be so rigid that you force yourself to be defined by ticking several boxes and sticking to them. You can be one thing today and another thing next week. So often we go through life trying to find ourselves and figure out who we are so that we … Continue reading Open to exploring
Let them get it wrong
When teaching someone how to do something, you have to let them get it wrong. It may be easier to jump in just before the mistake, error or failure occurs and rectify things. But this brings little benefit in the long run. In the short run, the person may feel supported which is a good … Continue reading Let them get it wrong
Valuable conversations
Some of the most valuable conversations to have are the ones that are most difficult but that shouldn't be a reason not to have them. Even though it might be difficult, challenging or uncomfortable it allows room for learning, growth and understanding that may have not taken place otherwise. Of course, there is a chance … Continue reading Valuable conversations
Pace, pace, Lead
Something I read in a book about NLP. Sometimes I'm a little hesitant to embrace every aspect of NLP because using methods to influence people in your favour is potentially unethical or at least comes across as manipulative. But other times I find that NLP can provide a useful guide on how to word things … Continue reading Pace, pace, Lead
Figuring out where things went wrong
If you find yourself regularly having conversations that don't go as planned, in the sense that the outcome you intended wasn't achieved (or you just end up getting frustrated) it's worth taking the time to figure out where things went wrong. Sometimes, it is a simple case of two people with different perspectives not being … Continue reading Figuring out where things went wrong
You have to be willing to change your mind
It's more important than you might have considered. When it comes to your opinions, beliefs and life plans, you have to be willing to change your mind. You never want to be so set in your ways that you close yourself off to other options. Sometimes when you're so committed to what you know, it … Continue reading You have to be willing to change your mind
The Daily Gemm 