This year I learnt lots of important lessons about speaking up. When we speak up we're being our authentic selves instead of hiding who we are. When we speak up we give people that care about us the opportunity to support us. When we speak up it's how we express that we value and care … Continue reading What happens when we speak up?
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It’s okay to get it wrong
When you first get comfortable with speaking up for yourself, you might take it to the extremes. In that moment you might be unknowingly responding on behalf of all the other times you didn't speak up so it could look like an over reaction. And perhaps in hindsight, you'd have done things differently. But, it's … Continue reading It’s okay to get it wrong
Learning to be yourself
It's a little bit like playing dress up. You try things out, see what works and feels most like you. You keep those things that feel best and put the rest aside. People can end up going decades without knowing what it's like to be themselves because their sense of self and what it means … Continue reading Learning to be yourself
Five free things that help
Knowing what helps you when you feel stuck or find yourself in a difficult situation is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. The things I've included below help me for more than just the moment I do them. There have been times I've done things that are much more grand … Continue reading Five free things that help
The wrong time to apologise
When you're in a situation where someone doesn't like what you said or how you feel, your instinct may be to apologise. This probably feels like the easiest way to resolve the issue and you might even tell yourself that next time you'll be more careful about what you say around this person to avoid … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
Learning difficult lessons
When you're going through the deep depths of working through it, some lessons are easier than others. Some lessons you accept and embrace but other lessons are a lot more challenging so you resist.You avoid doing the work the way you know that you should. And so the issue remains. There's a well known quote … Continue reading Learning difficult lessons
Saying no to what you don’t want
For some of us saying no is a difficult lesson. Perhaps, to ease yourself into it you start with giving out maybe's because they feel softer than no. However, the problem with maybe is that it isn't very clear and it can still end up becoming a yes. One of my teachers Maryam Hasnaa once … Continue reading Saying no to what you don’t want
The unbecoming
We are often taught that we need to become something. We're taught that we need to change. This often involves working harder and doing more. We place labels on ourselves, feeling as though we need more and more. We cover ourselves in labels as though too much is not enough. But the true self is … Continue reading The unbecoming
Worth sticking up for
How many times have you held your tongue or put the needs of others before your own? Often the idea of being selfless is something that is praised but the reality is that it's often just self-sacrifice. When the person that puts others first is around people that put themselves first, they end up losing. … Continue reading Worth sticking up for
Anxious
In a recent post I wrote about embracing awkward. Shortly after I realised that what I was referring to was anxiety, specifically social anxiety. I then got thinking about what being socially anxious looks like. I think when a person becomes aware of their own behaviour, they can end up amplifying it. You're sitting there … Continue reading Anxious
The Daily Gemm 