This year I learnt lots of important lessons about speaking up. When we speak up we're being our authentic selves instead of hiding who we are. When we speak up we give people that care about us the opportunity to support us. When we speak up it's how we express that we value and care … Continue reading What happens when we speak up?
Tag: growth
Encouraging compliments
Over a decade ago when I was in secondary school I had to do a spoken piece for one of my classes that I would be graded on. Luckily it was only in front of the teacher but I was still incredibly nervous. I wanted to be good at it and for it to go … Continue reading Encouraging compliments
It’s okay to get it wrong
When you first get comfortable with speaking up for yourself, you might take it to the extremes. In that moment you might be unknowingly responding on behalf of all the other times you didn't speak up so it could look like an over reaction. And perhaps in hindsight, you'd have done things differently. But, it's … Continue reading It’s okay to get it wrong
Learning to be yourself
It's a little bit like playing dress up. You try things out, see what works and feels most like you. You keep those things that feel best and put the rest aside. People can end up going decades without knowing what it's like to be themselves because their sense of self and what it means … Continue reading Learning to be yourself
Five free things that help
Knowing what helps you when you feel stuck or find yourself in a difficult situation is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. The things I've included below help me for more than just the moment I do them. There have been times I've done things that are much more grand … Continue reading Five free things that help
The wrong time to apologise
When you're in a situation where someone doesn't like what you said or how you feel, your instinct may be to apologise. This probably feels like the easiest way to resolve the issue and you might even tell yourself that next time you'll be more careful about what you say around this person to avoid … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
Changing my routine
Around 7 years ago I read The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg and I loved it. It was during a period of deep learning after I became committed to understanding more about myself. A key point in the book was the concept of the habit loop. It was the idea that habits are made … Continue reading Changing my routine
Exploring something new and avoiding regression
Sometimes when things change we spend time hoping and wishing for the the way things once were. But then when things return to the old way, it doesn't quite feel the way we thought it would. That's because you've changed and become accustomed to the new way and now the old way no longer fits. … Continue reading Exploring something new and avoiding regression
Why things might not be working out
Sometimes when we try something and it doesn't work out, we belive that we need to try harder. But sometimes things aren't working out because they aren't for us. And the lack of progress is a sign to let it go and do something else. However, when you're focused on everyone else who things have … Continue reading Why things might not be working out
The unbecoming
We are often taught that we need to become something. We're taught that we need to change. This often involves working harder and doing more. We place labels on ourselves, feeling as though we need more and more. We cover ourselves in labels as though too much is not enough. But the true self is … Continue reading The unbecoming
The Daily Gemm 