There is a gap between our wants and our actions.
For example, the gap between wanting to do better and actually doing better.
I believe that there is a always a gap but by putting in the effort little by little you’re able to bridge the gap. However, their is also the danger of falling into the gap by becoming inconsistent, uncommitted and making excuses. Essentially, your actions are no longer aligned with the things you say you want.
An example of this could be if your want is to become healthier but your action is eating chocolate cake for breakfast instead of something to provide nourishment to your body.
When you know what you want the focus should be on bridging the gap. Reflect on if the actions you’re taking are bringing you closer to where you want to be. Now this doesn’t mean never eating chocolate cake again but it probably means you shouldn’t be eating it everyday.
After a difficult or challenging life experience whether mental or physical, you end up in a recovery period.
For example, imagine you fall off your bike and break your leg. Your recovery period would be the cast and crutches but eventually you’re walking again. Another example is a breakup, it could take a few weeks or even months to emotionally recover from a relationship ending.
The recovery net is where you end up when you’re not willing to let go of the comfort/safety of being in recovery.
If we go back to the bike story. Imagine, you’re at the point where your leg has healed and you no longer need the crutches but you can’t seem to let them go.
You’re physically ready to ride again but you keep making excuses because you need them when the truth is you’re scared without them. You’re scared of falling.
And with a relationship ending your recovery net might be never committing to one person so that when one situation ends you’ll always have someone else.
The recovery net is the method that we use to protect ourselves from things that brought us some form of harm/pain. Not because we’re in any danger but because the idea of the potential danger scares us so much that we aren’t really ready to make the true leap and risk being hurt again.
One of the most popular excuses people make is not having enough time.
Yet you’re able to make time for things that you don’t even really consider to be important.
Meanwhile, it’s your life long dream that you’re willing to put on hold or sometimes put off altogether.
There’s no denying that it can be difficult to make time but surely you’d be willing to find a way for the things you truly care about.
Finding a way might mean getting up a little earlier, watching one episode of that show you like instead of three or even making use of your train journeys.
It might seem challenging but with a little thought and a little effort, it’s definitely possible to make the most of the time you have.
Because you’ll never be ready.
When it comes to fear the mistake we often make is trying to wait for it to go away.
It probably won’t.
But there you are saying no and putting things off because you think that by doing nothing the feeling will go away.
Instead how about try leaning into that feeling (I think Stacey June said something about leaning in on her podcast and maybe she got it from Brene Brown).
Anyway, an important lesson I’ve learnt this year is that you can’t bypass stuff so embrace it.
If not you’ll just end up making excuses and nothing will ever get done.
Everybody is going through something, you’re not alone.
It’s like that Pfunk song goes ‘I’ve got a thing, you’ve got a thing, everybody’s got a thing,
And so if each one of us has a thing that we’re dealing with alongside living our lives then we shouldn’t use that as an excuse.
It is so easy to use your life circumstances as the reasons why you can’t do the things you daydream about. You might find yourself saying or thinking:
If it wasn’t for…
I know it can get difficult (I’ve got a thing too, remember) but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t even try.