Putting yourself last creates the opportunity for you to be ignored, dismissed and generally treated poorly. You show up as a people pleaser, someone who is afraid to be seen and say what they really want. Putting yourself last can also be about wanting to be perceived as a 'good' person. You think it benefits … Continue reading The problem with putting yourself last
Tag: acceptance
The more you try to explain…
...the more you'll be misunderstood. It's a necessary reminder that can be difficult to accept because many of us yearn to be understood. Anything less feels like a rejection. And so you keep trying to explain.
Finding the right perspective
If something didn't work out the way you wanted and you feel bad about it and you can't seem to shake the feeling, what can you do to help yourself? I often find myself in a place of limbo trying to find balance between the more practical side of me and the part of me … Continue reading Finding the right perspective
How to resolve a misunderstanding?
When it comes to resolving misunderstandings things can easily go wrong. But there are some things that can be done to try and get the best possible outcome. The person that misunderstood needs to be able to openly admit that they perceived things wrong. The person on the receiving end needs to accept that the … Continue reading How to resolve a misunderstanding?
Learning difficult lessons
When you're going through the deep depths of working through it, some lessons are easier than others. Some lessons you accept and embrace but other lessons are a lot more challenging so you resist.You avoid doing the work the way you know that you should. And so the issue remains. There's a well known quote … Continue reading Learning difficult lessons
Anxious
In a recent post I wrote about embracing awkward. Shortly after I realised that what I was referring to was anxiety, specifically social anxiety. I then got thinking about what being socially anxious looks like. I think when a person becomes aware of their own behaviour, they can end up amplifying it. You're sitting there … Continue reading Anxious
It isn’t worth pretending
When people have an expectation of who they think or want you to be, they have a difficult time I'm accepting when you become something else. It could be a permanent thing or perhaps you are just going through a phase but either way who you become is your choice. I think we all need … Continue reading It isn’t worth pretending
The feeling of fitting in
When we're focused on how we appear to others, we can end up doing things that we don't actually enjoy. We become so focused on perception that we don't even consider the importance of prioritising ourselves. It's worth acknowledging that sometimes we have a need to feel accepted. When your self esteem is low it's … Continue reading The feeling of fitting in
Willing to walk away
When it comes to asking for what you want, if you don't get it, what do you do next? Are you willing to walk away? I think that sometimes problems arise when we aren't willing to be firm. We say we want something, don't get it and then just continue on as normal. But I … Continue reading Willing to walk away
Change the way you respond
If something happens and your feelings get hurt or you don't like the way that someone has treated you, it's important to do something about it. It's easy to get into the habit of sheepishly speaking up then cowering and retreating when the other person shuts you down. When this happens, the other person learns … Continue reading Change the way you respond
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