One of the easiest ways to identify if you have an issue with perfectionism in some way, shape or form is to look at how you react to when you make mistakes (or what feels like a mistake). How easily are you able to move on from the moment? How do you feel about or … Continue reading The fear of getting things wrong
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The wrong time to apologise
When you're in a situation where someone doesn't like what you said or how you feel, your instinct may be to apologise. This probably feels like the easiest way to resolve the issue and you might even tell yourself that next time you'll be more careful about what you say around this person to avoid … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
A challenge worth accepting
At the end of 2021 I decided that I would strip back from trying to daily blog and just stick with 3 blog posts a week. I thought that would make things easier but somehow it seemed harder to keep up with. When I missed a day there was less urgency to catch up and … Continue reading A challenge worth accepting
A good thing worth ending
As the saying goes, all good things must come to an end. The end of something that didn't reach it's full potential is like a kind of heartbreak. A thing with potential is the sort of thing you can convince yourself to stick at for much longer than is reasonable. You do this because you … Continue reading A good thing worth ending
Easy conversations only
When we avoid having conversations that we consider to be hard, difficult or challenging we are also saying that we're only committed to easy conversations. You then find yourself in situations where you're avoiding saying what you really think or how you really feel because you want to keep things easy. However, this just leads … Continue reading Easy conversations only
The feeling not the thing
Whilst thinking about the idea of missing out on certain aspects of life, an interesting thought came to me. What if it's the feeling we missed out on, not the thing itself. Think about how 2 people can do something totally different but it brings up the same feeling. Or about how you can do … Continue reading The feeling not the thing
Why I’ve decided not to quit
I've previously written a post titled Short term creative projects. It was about things not needing to last, about having temporary projects and producing work in seasons. Those thoughts came from me wanting to make changes with how I choose to create moving forward. I've always struggled to keep a long-term vision. I find myself … Continue reading Why I’ve decided not to quit
Short term creative projects
I used to have a negative perception of things that didn't last. It was as though the ending nullified all that had come before it. And so I wanted everything to last forever. However in the past 6 months or so I've started to see the appeal of short term creative projects. Creating in a … Continue reading Short term creative projects
An alternative you
Who could you be if you put down all the fears and external expectations? What would this alternative you look like? Maybe you think you'd be pretty much the same and maybe you'd be a totally different person? Would you dress the same?What career would you pursue?What would you spend your money on?What would you … Continue reading An alternative you
The unbecoming
We are often taught that we need to become something. We're taught that we need to change. This often involves working harder and doing more. We place labels on ourselves, feeling as though we need more and more. We cover ourselves in labels as though too much is not enough. But the true self is … Continue reading The unbecoming
The Daily Gemm 