Mind the gap

That’s what’s painted at the platforms edge.

I suppose now is the best time to add the disclaimer that this isn’t about jumping.

The message painted on the platforms edge can be used in conversations about the distance between where you are and where you want to be.

The gap is the space between the known and the unknown and I’ve recently found myself in it which is why I thought I’d write about it.

When you transform your life looking it creates space between you and your past self, sometimes to the point where it doesn’t even feel like you, it’s like a whole different person.

You’re now on the other side of the gap looking back.

It’s like when you’re going through a difficult period and can’t see how to make things better. Then weeks, months or years go by and all of a sudden you’re looking back thinking ‘oh, I actually did it!’. You went from hopeless to hopeful from ‘blah to ta-da!’.

But it’s rare that we see the change happening whilst we’re in the gap and it’s hard to see how to we can overcome it from the other side.

The gap is wide.

For anyone looking to change their life the gap may seem too wide. The space in between is full of trial and error, vulnerability, taking chances and commitment. You can’t get to other side unless you’re willing to go through those things.

So if you’re not willing, mind the gap.

Where I go

I feel like anyone that blogs daily has this mental space that they go to when they’re writing.

For me I tap into my inner monologue. It’s always running and so I simply stop and pay attention to it for long enough to write a hundred words or so.

For the most part it’s easy to do, to pay attention to my thoughts and write about them.

But sometimes getting to that place isn’t so easy because we get caught in trying to be perfect or underestimating our own abilities.

The amazing thing is that, no matter how you feel you always have access to that place.

What space taught me

I’ve been thinking about how when you give yourself space from people you can end up realising that actually you’re quite content without that person being in your life.

And then days or weeks later when the space is no longer there you find yourself holding back because in that time of space you realised that what you have with this person is nothing more than familiarity.

The old things that would draw you in don’t have the effect that they used to. The things that you ignored even though they bothered you are no longer things you’re willing to over look.

Space taught me to remember the things that I have learnt.  For it is in moments of solitude that I am reminded of how much I love myself and all the things I want for myself and it’s okay to settle but it’s not okay to settle for other people.