I recently found myself with a problem to solve that felt difficult. It was as if the more I tried to solve it, the more challenging it became and it felt so serious. But then, I tried lightening up and looking at things from a different perspective, and I managed to find a little humour … Continue reading Difficult problems and light-hearted solutions
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Understanding empathing
Recently I found myself thinking about someone else's problem. It was really frustrating but I kept thinking about what I would do if it was me. From my perspective and experience, this person wasn't handling the problem in a way that was helpful to them. I felt this way because time had passed and they … Continue reading Understanding empathing
Learning difficult lessons
When you're going through the deep depths of working through it, some lessons are easier than others. Some lessons you accept and embrace but other lessons are a lot more challenging so you resist.You avoid doing the work the way you know that you should. And so the issue remains. There's a well known quote … Continue reading Learning difficult lessons
Solving simple problems
I love the idea that simple things can be done to solve or reduce problems that significantly impact us. Whilst on a walk, I pondered on a problem I knew how to solve but had avoided. Yet, I was aware that if I did nothing, I'd get the repercussions later and potentially feel frustrated at … Continue reading Solving simple problems
A mindful offload
If you're someone that likes to vent and offload I think it's important to be mindful. Think about things such as: How many times have I vented to this person about the same issue? Has anything changed or am I just repeating the same thing over and over again? Do I want help solving this … Continue reading A mindful offload
Addicted to limbo
When you're used to something, you can end up creating situations in your life where you get more of it, even when it's not helpful. I recently had a conversation about a problem. From my perspective it was fairly easy to solve. From the perspective of the person I was with it was something challenging, … Continue reading Addicted to limbo
Willing to walk away
When it comes to asking for what you want, if you don't get it, what do you do next? Are you willing to walk away? I think that sometimes problems arise when we aren't willing to be firm. We say we want something, don't get it and then just continue on as normal. But I … Continue reading Willing to walk away
Another point of view
Sometimes when you encounter an issue you only look at it from your perspective. You focus on how you feel, how you've been treated and you can end up playing the victim (often unknowingly). Sometimes we take the position of the victim because we want to be coddled and we want to be saved but … Continue reading Another point of view
What needs to change?
Think about all the things that are currently bothering you, contribute to you feeling stuck or just causing a problem in your life. Write them down one by one. Now go through each of them and think about what needs to change in order to overcome the problem. Then, write it down. If you're not … Continue reading What needs to change?
Trial and error
In order to find the solution to a problem, it often takes trial and error. Sure, the first thing might work but not always. Trial and error requires you to be willing to embrace uncertainty, take risks and persevere. However, often in life we're not willing to do those things as much as we could … Continue reading Trial and error