Engrossed in the work

When you think of work, what sort of works come to mind?

Is it fun, exciting, thought provoking, challenging and interesting…

or is it more along the lines of boring, difficult, repetitive and time consuming?

Work often comes with a negative connotation that has nothing to do with the actual work.

The truth is work can be interesting and difficult or thought provoking and time consuming. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t enjoy it.

Of course if you’re inner monologue is on a loop about how boring your work is you probably won’t have a good time doing it.

The work often gets better once you engross yourself in it instead of having ‘negative’ feelings toward it.

The right thing to do

Sometimes right and wrong is hazy.

Other times right and wrong is black and white.

The interesting part is when 2 groups come together with 2 different perspectives.

In the current state of the world, many would argue that the right thing to do is stay home as much as possible and practice social distancing. And these same people see it pretty black and white.

On the other hand there is a group of people who are out regularly and socialising in groups. They know they aren’t supposed to, they know the impacts of doing so and the benefits of abiding by the rules yet they still reject them.

For these people right and wrong is hazy.

Or maybe they just like the idea of being rebellious.

Going round in circles

Sometimes you get caught in a loop that you’d rather not be in.

Two people with who see the world differently are likely to end up going round in circles when they try to explain their point of view.

But it’s also important to talk to people that think differently to you. It broadens your awareness and can also help make you more accepting of people that don’t think the way you do. That’s important, or at least I think it is.

Instead of getting caught in a loop of right and wrong or competing to see who can talk the loudest, why not make listening a priority.

And then instead of feeling like you have to prove your perspective, know that your thoughts are valid.

Once you listen and know that you don’t have anything to prove you’re so much less likely to find yourself going round in circles. It really can be that easy.

Uncharted territory

It’s easy to stick with what you know especially when it works.

But sometimes it’s good to try something new, explore uncharted territory.

Not just because what you’re used to isn’t working but because there’s is so much out there.

Trying new things help broaden your perspective.

Plus, how can you talk about how great something is when it’s the only thing you’ve tried.

Granted what you already know might turn out to be the best option but it doesn’t mean that alternatives aren’t worth exploring.

Don’t be afraid to try something new.

23 things to do if you’re stuck inside

A bunch of things to do for those that are stuck inside for a little while:

  1. Declutter your closet
  2. Tidy an area of your home that you’ve been putting off
  3. Finish the book you’re currently reading
  4. Start a new book
  5. Phone a friend
  6. Have a group video call
  7. Watch a new series
  8. Work through your ‘movies to watch’ list
  9. Re-watch an old series
  10. Start a blog
  11. Write a short story
  12. Do yoga
  13. Write poetry
  14. Write a bucket list
  15. Write in your journal
  16. Meditate
  17. Listen to sound bowls
  18. Bake
  19. Drink tea
  20. Make a playlist
  21. Dance to your favourite song
  22. Laugh (it boosts your immune system)
  23. Have a bath with essential oils

Lastly, and I suppose most importantly, take care of yourself and those around you.

 

 

 

 

Consumption and influence

You might be under the impression that the media you consume has no influence over you.

But one day you might find yourself saying, doing or buying something that doesn’t quite feel like you.

For example, on a podcast a woman spoke about how she noticed that when watching a particular reality tv show she was more argumentative.

I think it’s impossible to not be influenced whatsoever and it’s important to be aware of how you’re influenced by the things you consume.

Some examples of the things we consume are: YouTube, blogs, TV, music and social media.

Consumption of those things can influence your career choice, how you spend your money, what you value, your self esteem, how you communicate, the way you view life and so on.

I can openly admit that I’m aware of how I’m influenced by things. An easy example is music because I have playlists for when I’m feeling blue and for when I need a pick me up.

Something I unconsciously started doing from a young age is thinking about the way I want to feel or the kind of person I want to be and consuming things that align with that.

If that’s not something you already do, I think it’s worth a try.

The reason behind the risk

When taking a risk pays off, it’s easy to get caught up in the fact that things turned out the way you wanted.

But I think it’s important to also focus on the reason behind taking the risk in the first place.

You did it because you believed it was worth it, you knew it would get you a step closer to where you want to be, you wanted to push yourself and try something new or you had the confidence that it would work out.

Sometimes the reason behind the risk is more important than the outcome.

Challenges in common

One of things that makes a challenging experience more challenging is feeling alone.

One of the biggest misconceptions is that you are alone in your difficulties because you’re not.

With a planet of over 7 billion people I’d like to think that pretty much all my challenges are shared by at least one other person on this earth.

But it isn’t a misery loves company thing or a let us rejoice in the fact that your life is just as challenging as mine.

It’s more about the fact that if 264276 other people have experienced the same challenges as me (failure for example), then maybe it’s not as big of a deal as I thought.

Don’t focus on the fear

It is so easy to get carried away.

There are lots of things that you could be afraid of but it doesn’t mean you should be.

I find that the more you focus on fear the more you amplify it until all of a sudden you’re having heart palpitations over something that would be better off as a passing thought.

There’s so much more to you and your life than the things you’re afraid of.

And sure it’s easier said than done but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t at least try.

Someone to polish your glasses

On learning to see things more clearly.

In situations where your perspective is hazy you might need someone to polish your glasses.

Not in the literal sense but in the form of sharing words, interacting and connecting.

When you’re so used to your own way of thinking you might find that you’ve become rigid and closed minded.

And unless you make a conscious effort to open your mind, your way of seeing things is not likely to change.

That’s why it’ll take someone else to shift your way of seeing things. Someone that’ll come into your life with polish and one one of those microfiber dust free cloths to give your glasses a little polish.

And it’ll rarely be explicit instead it’ll be so subtle that you don’t notice until it’s already done.

I think that’s the purpose some people serve in our lives. They could be in your life for multiple years or a mere moment but they spark change.