On learning to see things more clearly.
In situations where your perspective is hazy you might need someone to polish your glasses.
Not in the literal sense but in the form of sharing words, interacting and connecting.
When you’re so used to your own way of thinking you might find that you’ve become rigid and closed minded.
And unless you make a conscious effort to open your mind, your way of seeing things is not likely to change.
That’s why it’ll take someone else to shift your way of seeing things. Someone that’ll come into your life with polish and one one of those microfiber dust free cloths to give your glasses a little polish.
And it’ll rarely be explicit instead it’ll be so subtle that you don’t notice until it’s already done.
I think that’s the purpose some people serve in our lives. They could be in your life for multiple years or a mere moment but they spark change.
The purpose of an animals shell is to protect them from danger.
Humans don’t have physical shells but we do have actions and behaviours that we express in order to protect ourselves.
So, let us play around with the metaphor of us humans having shells.
Perhaps you’re closed off around new people to protect yourself from getting hurt. And in some situations that might save you a lot of hassle and be a useful thing to do.
But what about when it’s time to be vulnerable or what about when you don’t actually need to protect yourself as there is no danger present.
As much as it’s great to know how to protect yourself it’s important to also remember that you don’t need to do it all the time.
If I’m ever looking for how to be better at leading, Sinek is the first person I would turn to.
I’ve never read his book ‘Leaders eat last’ but I have heard him talk about leadership and read his daily quotes on leadership. He says and writes some really useful stuff that get you thinking about how you can be better at what you’re aiming to do or how you can do things differently.
but aside from Simon Sinek who is an author and TEDx-er, I also know quite a few people in my personal life that are leaders. By watching them I’ve been able to pick up a lot.
Sometimes we think we need the famous or popular person to teach us how to do things because we fall into putting them on pedestals.
But if you spend time with different people you’ll find you’re surrounded by people you can learn from.
Just because you fail doesn’t make you a failure, if someone doesn’t accept your help doesn’t make you useless and so it goes on.
I think sometimes we try so hard to define things and to define who we are that we miss the bigger picture. It’s not about being a winner or a loser.
Alan watts wrote something that really stuck with me that pretty much said in terms of duality that you only know one thing because of the other, that they’re different sides of the same coin.
We put so much weight on the meaning behind things that we forget to just take them for what they are.
Hiding who you are is an easy way to find yourself misunderstood.
If you focus on only being a small fragment of your true self then that is what people will take you as.
That small fragment could be serious and hardworking but deep down you have a silly side.
Maybe you’re embarrassed about the silly side or worried about judged so you hold back.
You don’t join in with certain conversations even when you have something to contribute, as though you’re not allowed to speak.
Yet you walk around feeling misunderstood totally unaware that you’re in a web of your own making.
Reflecting on the part you play in your own life circumstances is a useful exercise.
Because cracking the illusion of the super human might be just what you need.
So, I don’t have anyone I’d consider an idol but I have a bunch of music favourites as well as Seth Godin, Simon Sinek, Gary Vee etc. They’re all people that move or inspire me.
They’re people I think are amazing but not superior just different. I’m not under any impression that they’re perfect or that I would like them if I knew them personally or even that they would like me.
When I think about meeting Seth Godin based on what I know it would be a pretty ordinary experience. He’s just another bald man in a suit with odd socks and a purple glasses.
Putting people on pedestals isn’t useful or beneficial for you.
That’s why we should meet them, to break the illusion. To remember that we aren’t less than and remember that we’re capable of great stuff too.
If you live outside of the UK and keep up with global politics then you’ll know that on the 12th December there is a UK general election.
Although there are various parties running, it’s really just a choice between Labour and Conservatives.
From the perspective of someone who isn’t particularly political, Labour is for ‘the people’ and Conservatives are for ‘the man’.
But I also think it’s worth reading about the plans of both parties and making an independent judgement.
Don’t just follow the crowd, your family or what you see on social media. Get informed and vote based on your own opinion.
I think it’s better to vote based on what you believe instead of just copying what’s popular because you’re scared to stand out.
It might make for an uncomfortable conversation but at least you stood up for your beliefs.