Putting yourself last creates the opportunity for you to be ignored, dismissed and generally treated poorly. You show up as a people pleaser, someone who is afraid to be seen and say what they really want. Putting yourself last can also be about wanting to be perceived as a 'good' person. You think it benefits … Continue reading The problem with putting yourself last
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The importance of perception
I recently had a conversation about how sometimes we can be totally unaware of how we are perceived. On one hand how others perceive us may not be considered important or something of value. But on on the other hand it's incredibly useful information. It can highlight where we need to work on our communication … Continue reading The importance of perception
What’s the use in rigid plans?
In the past few months I've experienced various unexpected change. And in turn, I've had to change my plans. The specific things I thought I'd be doing haven't happened in the ways I thought they would. They've happened in new ways. If I'd kept my plans rigid, I'd have probably missed out on new opportunities … Continue reading What’s the use in rigid plans?
Identity and aspects of self
I think it's really helpful to be in a position where your life is filled with lots of wonderful things that bring you joy to the point where your cup of joy runs over. The alternative is for your life to be filled with a single wonderful thing that brings you joy. The problem with … Continue reading Identity and aspects of self
Six degrees of separation
It's important to have aspirations. It's also important not to create a sense of separation between where you are and where you want to be. I like to think of it as six degrees of separation but for life aspirations. You're never so far from the life that you want. For example, most of us … Continue reading Six degrees of separation
Most popular blog post
I had this idea that each time I write and click publish, it needed to be really good. In doing so i forgot that this blog is a writing practise and the point of practise isn't to be perfect every time but to put in the work little to by little to eventually get better … Continue reading Most popular blog post
When good things end
The popular quote 'all good things must come to an end' can feel like a dark cloud looming over a summers day. But good things ending isn't always a bad thing and it shouldn't nullify how great it was at the time. You have to find a way to close out the chapter with gratitude … Continue reading When good things end
Fun, joyful and sweet
If you could choose to shift your perception in order for your life to feel a little more wonderful, would you do it? Sometimes we're so bogged down by the challenges we face and the harsh realities of life, we don't allow ourselves to believe that life can be fun, joyful and sweet. We see … Continue reading Fun, joyful and sweet
Anticipated perception
Sometimes we tailor what we say based on how we anticipate that our words will be received. Sometimes it's a conscious thing where you will intentionally not say what feels most honest or authentic. Instead you'll say less, be more neutral and keep the enthusiasm to a minimum. But perhaps you're not quite aware that … Continue reading Anticipated perception
Everything could be different
So often, we get deeply and strongly attached. We hope that things will remain as they are. We fear that change might bring in what we don't want and clear out what we do want. But, I like to believe that as wonderful and perfect as things might be right now, everything could be different … Continue reading Everything could be different
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