Saying the words I'm sorry or I aologise are pretty easy to do. But something I learnt recently is that it is important not to apologise for the wrong thing. If you express how you feel and someone doesn't like it, apologising teaches a very unhealthy lesson*. Some people will encourage this kind of behaviour … Continue reading They don’t have to like it
Tag: growth
On wanting to feel understood by the wrong people
Sometimes we explain things not because we want the the person to agree with us or to change their mind but instead because we want to feel understood. We want to feel as though we don't have to be like the other person or change ourselves in order to be accepted. But some people are … Continue reading On wanting to feel understood by the wrong people
Turning things around
If things aren't going well, do you know how to make them better? The ability to turn things around is a great skill, I'd even go so far as to call it life-saving. But, if your life constantly needs to be turned around and made better, then perhaps you need to focus on what's causing … Continue reading Turning things around
What happens when we speak up?
This year I learnt lots of important lessons about speaking up. When we speak up we're being our authentic selves instead of hiding who we are. When we speak up we give people that care about us the opportunity to support us. When we speak up it's how we express that we value and care … Continue reading What happens when we speak up?
Encouraging compliments
Over a decade ago when I was in secondary school I had to do a spoken piece for one of my classes that I would be graded on. Luckily it was only in front of the teacher but I was still incredibly nervous. I wanted to be good at it and for it to go … Continue reading Encouraging compliments
It’s okay to get it wrong
When you first get comfortable with speaking up for yourself, you might take it to the extremes. In that moment you might be unknowingly responding on behalf of all the other times you didn't speak up so it could look like an over reaction. And perhaps in hindsight, you'd have done things differently. But, it's … Continue reading It’s okay to get it wrong
Learning to be yourself
It's a little bit like playing dress up. You try things out, see what works and feels most like you. You keep those things that feel best and put the rest aside. People can end up going decades without knowing what it's like to be themselves because their sense of self and what it means … Continue reading Learning to be yourself
Five free things that help
Knowing what helps you when you feel stuck or find yourself in a difficult situation is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. The things I've included below help me for more than just the moment I do them. There have been times I've done things that are much more grand … Continue reading Five free things that help
The wrong time to apologise
When you're in a situation where someone doesn't like what you said or how you feel, your instinct may be to apologise. This probably feels like the easiest way to resolve the issue and you might even tell yourself that next time you'll be more careful about what you say around this person to avoid … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
Changing my routine
Around 7 years ago I read The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg and I loved it. It was during a period of deep learning after I became committed to understanding more about myself. A key point in the book was the concept of the habit loop. It was the idea that habits are made … Continue reading Changing my routine
The Daily Gemm 