When you're not ready to handle something the best thing to do is to put it aside. But sometimes when you leave things for much longer than necessary and you're no longer taking the time to figure out how to manage a challenge problem, you're just avoiding it. Often once you start avoiding something it … Continue reading The ‘Do It Now’ day
Tag: fear
It’s okay to get it wrong
When you first get comfortable with speaking up for yourself, you might take it to the extremes. In that moment you might be unknowingly responding on behalf of all the other times you didn't speak up so it could look like an over reaction. And perhaps in hindsight, you'd have done things differently. But, it's … Continue reading It’s okay to get it wrong
You can’t control the outcome
In a recent interaction, the response made me realise that despite carefully picking my words, there was a misunderstanding. I felt like I had over explained, dotted all the i's and crossed all the t's but somehow the other person didn't understand what I was trying to say. It had me stumped. In hindsight, it … Continue reading You can’t control the outcome
The fear of getting things wrong
One of the easiest ways to identify if you have an issue with perfectionism in some way, shape or form is to look at how you react to when you make mistakes (or what feels like a mistake). How easily are you able to move on from the moment? How do you feel about or … Continue reading The fear of getting things wrong
It doesn’t have to last forever
Some of the resistance to starting something new is the fear that it won't work out. Yet, you'll never have the chance to see your idea flourish unless you're willing to give it go. In order to do this you have to shift your mindset to one where your intention is simply to bring a … Continue reading It doesn’t have to last forever
Making the leap
If there's a gap between your life and the life you want, something has to change. Life can change or you can change. One of my major underlying themes for 2022 was change. Not my usual small scale gentle change. It was the large scale, transformative change. I'm starting to understand that there are benefits … Continue reading Making the leap
That thing you’re avoiding
How is it we allow ourselves to be overwhelmed and consumed small simple tasks? Something that could take 10 minutes becomes challenging and scary. So, you put it off and tell yourself that you'll do it later, that you'll do it when you feel less afraid or less overwhelmed. Meanwhile the feelings won't go away … Continue reading That thing you’re avoiding
An alternative you
Who could you be if you put down all the fears and external expectations? What would this alternative you look like? Maybe you think you'd be pretty much the same and maybe you'd be a totally different person? Would you dress the same?What career would you pursue?What would you spend your money on?What would you … Continue reading An alternative you
Resisting change
Sometimes we tell ourselves we want to change and that we want things to be different. Then, we resist every opportunity that comes our way. We turn down the chance to meet people with shared interests when we say we want to make new connections. We eat chocolate cake for breakfast when we say we … Continue reading Resisting change
Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
I've often found that the feeling of anxiety grows and becomes more heightened when questions go unasked. When we have uncertainty it creates a gap. And for those that are prone to anxiety that gap gets filled with pessimistic possibilities. Often once the feeling of anxiety has started to grow, asking questions feels too difficult … Continue reading Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
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