Who could you be if you put down all the fears and external expectations? What would this alternative you look like? Maybe you think you'd be pretty much the same and maybe you'd be a totally different person? Would you dress the same?What career would you pursue?What would you spend your money on?What would you … Continue reading An alternative you
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Made up meanings
Whilst checking the definition of the idiom bent out of shape for a future post and then the definition of bend, I realised I'd somewhat manipulated the meaning. I use the term 'bend' (specifically as bend to or bend towards) as a verb, it's an act of unspoken people pleasing. When you bend to someone … Continue reading Made up meanings
Meet your own needs
Sometimes we put our expectations and ideals on other people without considering the other persons own wants and needs. We feel empowered when other people meet our expectations and ideals. This is fine when things go our way. However, it is important to be able to accept that the other person is entitled to their … Continue reading Meet your own needs
An unexpected outcome
Sometimes we get carried away and create ideas for how we think that situations will play out. We predict our futures through the lense of the worst case scenario, telling ourselves we're simply being practical. The reality is that it is a form of protection that leads to self sabotage. Although it is said that … Continue reading An unexpected outcome
By any other name
New years resolution have garnered a bad reputation for being unreliable and not living up to their expectations. And so instead we call them goals or intentions (or whatever else we can come up with). But as Shakespeare said 'a rose by any other name would smell just as sweet'. We call it something else … Continue reading By any other name
Stepping back from what you think you want
There is often a lot of pressure to know what we want and then to go for it. We're made to feel as though we should be go, go, go, otherwise we're seen to just be lazy or wasting time. And often this societal pressure leads to us chasing after things we're not even sure … Continue reading Stepping back from what you think you want
The manager you need
When it comes to mentors, managers and the people that help support us throughout our careers, we often don't know what we need. If you're like me, the kind of person that needs a push, you're progress will be hindered by someone that mollycoddles you. Perhaps you need someone that is kind yet stern who … Continue reading The manager you need
It isn’t worth pretending
When people have an expectation of who they think or want you to be, they have a difficult time I'm accepting when you become something else. It could be a permanent thing or perhaps you are just going through a phase but either way who you become is your choice. I think we all need … Continue reading It isn’t worth pretending
Put yourself first
People that are considerate of others, to the point of putting others before themselves often end up feeling let down. This occurs when they base their expectations of how others should be on themselves. But not everyone is as considerate as you might be. Not everyone thinks about how other people may be impacted. Sometimes … Continue reading Put yourself first
Another point of view
Sometimes when you encounter an issue you only look at it from your perspective. You focus on how you feel, how you've been treated and you can end up playing the victim (often unknowingly). Sometimes we take the position of the victim because we want to be coddled and we want to be saved but … Continue reading Another point of view
The Daily Gemm 