If you're used to always being the one to bend to the needs of another, you might reach a point where you decide to change. Perhaps after an epiphany about the importance of balance. When it comes to some change, the advice is to go slow and take it bit by bit. However, when it … Continue reading Re-learning compromise
Tag: change
Bent out of shape
People that are used to people pleasing know what it's like to put their own wants and needs aside. Sometimes, you convince yourself that you're just compromising to find a balance. This is fine, until you realise that you're the only one willing to change. This could all be with one person or apply to … Continue reading Bent out of shape
A life changing perspective
A running theme throughout a lot of my posts (and what has become the baseline for this blog) is this idea of life's challenges and difficult moments having a lesson or a takeaway. Having this perspective completely changes your life. You go from things like blaming other people, being overly self critical, treating yourself unkindly … Continue reading A life changing perspective
Dreams change
What you want doesnt have to stay the same. Sometimes when we've been set on something for so long, even after we realise we something else we stick with the old plan. This is because it feels risky to change and we put so much pressure on ourselves to have things worked out. The result … Continue reading Dreams change
Joy and tragedy
It's can be easy to end up feeling guilty for being in a state of of joy when you know that people in other countries have had their lives turned upside down. How do we balance joy and tragedy? I think the answer is that we don't. I used to think to think that you … Continue reading Joy and tragedy
Clearing out a room
Imagine clearing everything out of a room until it is completely empty. You then dust, wipe the walls, vacuum the floor and then mop it. You wipe the windows and polish the glass. The space has now been freshened up and it's time to start bringing things back in. You'd be quite intentional about what … Continue reading Clearing out a room
Old ways
It might seem that right now there is little that you can do but revert to your old ways. If you've learnt self observation then perhaps you're used to your patterns of behaviour. Perhaps you can clearly map out and identify your old ways. And if you can do that then you can also choose … Continue reading Old ways
Opening up
The idea of opening up is often used to refer to situations where perhaps you're going through something. You're advised to open up to allow people to do things like support, help and care for you. But I like to apply the idea of opening up to those that are closed off, in general. Perhaps … Continue reading Opening up
You can if you have to
Most of the things we feel like we can't do are actually possible. You might be someone that struggles with being on time and is almost always late wherever you go. But then you have a serious medical appointment or an expensive pre-booked train ticket for a set time. Suddenly, your inability to be punctual … Continue reading You can if you have to
In search of motivation
We all tend to start the new year with enthusiasm and vigour. In the beginning, it's easy to stay motivated because you're running on that 'new year' energy. Then as the days and weeks pass you have to rely on your own motivation. If you're unable to make changes at any other point in the … Continue reading In search of motivation
The Daily Gemm 