I love the idea that simple things can be done to solve or reduce problems that significantly impact us.
Whilst on a walk, I pondered on a problem I knew how to solve but had avoided. Yet, I was aware that if I did nothing, I’d get the repercussions later and potentially feel frustrated at myself and the other people involved.
When the thing that is bothering us involves other people, it is often the part of us that wants to people please, keep the peace and manage other people’s feelings that stops us saying something. It’s to the point where we’d rather experience discomfort and allow something we aren’t okay with.
That’s not a healthy or helpful way to live.
On my walk, I thought about a way to overcome this issue
Firstly make a table. In the first column, write a list of problems, challenges or anything that is bothering you.
Next, write what’s stopping you solve things.
Then, for each problem write a solution, some way to fix or reduce the problem. If you find this difficult, imagine your most confident, self assured and empowered self. What would they do, how would they solve this problem?
The next step is to pick a problem and follow what you wrote on how solve it.
This is an important lesson in problem solving. Like the NLP presupposition goes ‘if something isn’t working, do something else’.
If you’ve taken a do nothing approach and find that the problem still persists, try something else.
I also think it’s incredibly helpful to come up with a solution from the perspective of your most confident, self assured and empowered self because it’s probably what you’re working to embody.
Once you start taking action, aside from the expected discomfort of doing something new, you’ll probably find that you’re seemingly burdensome problems were actually pretty simple to solve.