Don't offer adviceDon't offer advice until the person asks for it. People often make the assumption that when someone is talking about an issue they want to be told what to do. However, many times a person just wants to express themselves and feel heard. Show that your engaged verballyMuttering a generic hmmm, every now … Continue reading How to be a better listener
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There is no right decision
Many people feel a lot of anxiety when it comes to making decisions. I've written quite a few posts about the anxiety that can be felt around making decisions, choosing pathways and picking between different options. One of my beliefs when it comes to making decisions that I created a few years ago is that, … Continue reading There is no right decision
3 simple things to do for when you feel overwhelmed
If only it was as easy as 1, 2, 3! Something for you to refer back to when you need it. Write down how you feel. Write until you have nothing left to write. Write without trying to be perfect, let it be messy and make no sense. The important part is getting it all … Continue reading 3 simple things to do for when you feel overwhelmed
Minimising uncertainty
One of the triggers for anxiety is uncertainty. It's fair to say that uncertainty is a part of life. However, there are plenty of times in life where you can seek clarity to help fill in the gaps. This can be done by asking more questions. Questions like: When would you like me to complete … Continue reading Minimising uncertainty
The problem with putting things off
One of the best things that we can do for ourselves is, do things that need to be done, instead of putting them off. Our lives would be so much easier and our stress levels would be significantly lower if only we didn't wait to get things done. Often these things to be done are … Continue reading The problem with putting things off
How to get better at receiving feedback?
Getting feedback can be terrifying. Even if you have confidence in what you do the last thing you want is for someone else to come along and tell you that actually what you're doing isn't as good as you think it is. I think feedback is difficult to take in because we act as if … Continue reading How to get better at receiving feedback?
More than you can manage
Sometimes in a bid to grow, develop and push ourselves we end up taking on more than we can manage. You think the challenge is what you need, you think you need to be pushed and you want to prove yo yourself that you can manage. But often you just end up stressed and overwhelmed, … Continue reading More than you can manage
Productive Sundays
Sundays tend to be one of my most productive days, if not the most productive day. I think the reason for this is because it's still the weekend so I'm relaxed and can spend my entire day as I please but I also know that work starts the next day so I do what I … Continue reading Productive Sundays
When the numbers get you down
I try not to look at the stats very often because I never want to be too attached to the numbers. Of course it feels great when the numbers are high, when you're getting lots of likes, comments and new followers. But when the numbers drop and you're not seeing as many likes or views … Continue reading When the numbers get you down
The pick me up playlist
Around 18 months ago I created a Pick me up playlist. The reason I did this is in the name, I wanted a pick me up. But more importantly I wanted something I could go back to. I'm lucky enough to know how the music I listen to makes me feel and, I curated a … Continue reading The pick me up playlist
The Daily Gemm 