An important step in achieving the dream life is tending to it. Its like with gardening, you need to do more than just plant seeds. You need to space them the right distance apart, water them or maybe give them something to grow against.
A dream you do nothing with is likely to just remain a dream. But I think by tending to it you’re more likely to actually get it in some way or another.
And maybe that’s a scary thought, actually attaining what you truly want. But what do you have to lose, worst case scenario you end up back where you started with the knowledge that you took a risk to make it happen because you were willing to try.
Which one is worth more?
Often feedback is something you ask for whereas criticism is something you get given.
And so there is the idea that criticism is always negative and feedback is useful which in some ways I think is true.
I think that both are worth something if they’re specific and can be used to make improvements but the circumstance should also be considered.
Letting a restaurant know the food arrived cold is worth more than telling an author that their book was bad because you didn’t enjoy it. Nobody enjoys cold food that’s supposed to be hot but there will always be people that like stories about aliens.
And so it’s not a conversation about criticism and feedback but instead objectivity and subjectivity.
… I’m still going to do it.
I find it easier to write down my words by hand, perhaps because I write quicker than I can type. I can never manage to keep up with myself when I’m writing from my laptop.
The keyboard and screen of a phone, computer or laptop is no comparison to a Biro in hand scrawling away on a sheet of paper in a notebook.
At times the words are barely legible but that signifies the urgency to pour out all the words within.
That feeling is a beautiful thing, it’s one of the things I love most about writing, seeing my handwriting and the words I’ve written.
But I’m also aware of the very present environmental crisis on planet earth, so perhaps I should be more willing to go paperless.
Go, go, go until you can go no more.
I reject the concept of working yourself to the bone as it’s hard to reap the rewards when you’re ill with fatigue and exhaustion.
But the concept of working hard to reach your goals and the concept of being committed are 2 things I’m happy to promote as they allow you to get the best out of life, in my opinion anyway.
And alongside those 2 things I promote fun and I truly believe that laughter and joy are almost all we really need to live a good life.
Can you remember where you were at in life 3 years ago?
Did you have a job?
Where did you work?
Were you happy?
How were you spending your free time?
Where did you live?
What were you reading?
What were your life goals?
Who were your friends?
Who were you dating?
A lot can change in 1000 and something days and in a ‘go, go, go!’ society it can be easy to overlook just how far you’ve come.
Maybe you went from working part-time in a cafe, pretty happy with life, reading sci-fi and dating a dreamy guy who took you on picnics and twirled you to beautiful music.
But now you work full-time in HR, you’re not particularly happy, you have live in an expensive apartment in the city and don’t make time to read anymore.
And 3 years from now, things could be better, worse or maybe just different
This blog is more than just a blog.
It’s a daily blog.
It’s a writing practice.
It’s a come as you are space where I feel free to write as I please.
It’s a habit.
It’s a commitment.
It’s a hobby.
I’ve been blogging for years and but I never considered how I would feel about having a daily blog where the sole focus was on words. Turns out I love it, I could happily stop writing my lifestyle blog that’s how much I enjoy this blog.
It’s so much more than what it is. After over 7 years of writing online I’ve finally given myself permission to share my words in my own way.
I like a mixture of serious and silly. I can write about feeling afraid, the inner monologue and the importance of exploring yourself. But I can also write about creating a dream life and make up analogies based on cars.
And then there’s references to Seth Godin, someone who has had a major influence on me alongside pieces that are about moments I’ve experienced.
It’s hard to summarise what this is but it’s definitely more than just a blog.
When I started this blog 6 months ago I never really considered what I wanted it to be. I just knew that I wrote a lot and thought it would be nice to have somewhere to share it.
The months have flown by and knowing that I’m committed to finding a ‘gemm’ each day is something I look forward to.
Some days I think I’ve written a master piece and other days I think I’m clicking publish on some of my worst work. At times that can be a difficult thing to navigate but I find solace in knowing that I can share something new tomorrow.
I don’t pay much attention to views, followers, likes or comments in terms of keeping track and trying to make them go up because I know that it’ll take the fun out of things and I like that this place is so free.
It’s my ‘come as you are’ space. And each day I think about life and write what comes to me. It’s helped me to think differently because I don’t want to write posts complaining about how the cancelled meeting messed up my whole day or how a relationship has fallen apart.
Instead I try and focus on the lessons I’ve learnt and the growth points in the challenges I face.
Cheers to 6 months and cheers to 6 more!