When you're going difficult feelings (or feelings that feel difficult), it's vital to know what you need in order ton help yourself. As a teenager, I had no clue and so would just end up overwhelmed with days spent mulling over moments that weren't important in the grand scheme. Although i used to journal, it … Continue reading How to work through difficult feelings
Tag: Self-help
NLP changed me
When I first discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), it felt pretty radical. I was going through a difficult time and it helped to have something new to learn about that could in turn help me. I bought a book, read it and it changed my life. It wasn't so different that it felt weird or hard … Continue reading NLP changed me
Re-learning compromise
If you're used to always being the one to bend to the needs of another, you might reach a point where you decide to change. Perhaps after an epiphany about the importance of balance. When it comes to some change, the advice is to go slow and take it bit by bit. However, when it … Continue reading Re-learning compromise
Bent out of shape
People that are used to people pleasing know what it's like to put their own wants and needs aside. Sometimes, you convince yourself that you're just compromising to find a balance. This is fine, until you realise that you're the only one willing to change. This could all be with one person or apply to … Continue reading Bent out of shape
A life changing perspective
A running theme throughout a lot of my posts (and what has become the baseline for this blog) is this idea of life's challenges and difficult moments having a lesson or a takeaway. Having this perspective completely changes your life. You go from things like blaming other people, being overly self critical, treating yourself unkindly … Continue reading A life changing perspective
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? But more specifically, what do you do to support yourself when you feel overwhelmed? The answers might be exactly the same or perhaps you can't find an answer to the second question. Maybe when you're overwhelmed you go into an unconscious downward spiral. You might not know … Continue reading What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?
Meet your own needs
Sometimes we put our expectations and ideals on other people without considering the other persons own wants and needs. We feel empowered when other people meet our expectations and ideals. This is fine when things go our way. However, it is important to be able to accept that the other person is entitled to their … Continue reading Meet your own needs
Making assumptions
Assuming the worst is easy to do but rarely beneficial. Sometimes, most often when you're too inside your own head, you can end up assuming the worst. This then leads to action (or over-reaction) about something that wasn't even true in the first place. You're more than likely to end up regretting it, wishing you'd … Continue reading Making assumptions
Opening up
The idea of opening up is often used to refer to situations where perhaps you're going through something. You're advised to open up to allow people to do things like support, help and care for you. But I like to apply the idea of opening up to those that are closed off, in general. Perhaps … Continue reading Opening up
A resilient mindset
Seeing the bright side of every situation has it's perks. It's not about pretending that nothing bothers you or acting as though every experience is positive. It's more about adopting the kind of mindset that makes you resilient to the challenges of life. So perhaps in moments of sadness, you can remind yourself that it's … Continue reading A resilient mindset
The Daily Gemm 