If something didn't work out the way you wanted and you feel bad about it and you can't seem to shake the feeling, what can you do to help yourself? I often find myself in a place of limbo trying to find balance between the more practical side of me and the part of me … Continue reading Finding the right perspective
Sometimes we focus so much on how we are perceived that we don't give ourselves permission to just be. Everything you do, every aspect of your life is scrutinised through the lens of the others as you do your best to please and appease them. It could be the way that you dress, your hair, … Continue reading Useless opinions
What happens when we speak up?
This year I learnt lots of important lessons about speaking up. When we speak up we're being our authentic selves instead of hiding who we are. When we speak up we give people that care about us the opportunity to support us. When we speak up it's how we express that we value and care … Continue reading What happens when we speak up?
The DIY pick me up guide
It's currently the season of dark mornings, dark evenings, cold temperatures and bleak weather. In these conditions It's easy for morale to dip and to find yourself feeling blue. And when that happens it's useful to have some idea of how to help yourself. There's nothing wrong with feeling down every now and then but … Continue reading The DIY pick me up guide
How to tell if it’s working?
When you start implementing things like therapy, meditation, journaling, EFT, personal growth, personal development, reading self help books or whatever else it might be, you'll get to a point where you're asking yourself if it's working and maybe if it ever will work. You might find yourself questioning whether dedicating, time, energy and money to … Continue reading How to tell if it’s working?
Easy conversations only
When we avoid having conversations that we consider to be hard, difficult or challenging we are also saying that we're only committed to easy conversations. You then find yourself in situations where you're avoiding saying what you really think or how you really feel because you want to keep things easy. However, this just leads … Continue reading Easy conversations only
Willing to change
Often one of the things that stops us making necessary changes in our lives is this idea that we might prefer the way things were. We forget that many changes aren't permenant. If you cut your hair, it'll grow back or you can get a wig. If you leave your industry to try something new … Continue reading Willing to change
We are often taught that we need to become something. We're taught that we need to change. This often involves working harder and doing more. We place labels on ourselves, feeling as though we need more and more. We cover ourselves in labels as though too much is not enough. But the true self is … Continue reading The unbecoming
Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
I've often found that the feeling of anxiety grows and becomes more heightened when questions go unasked. When we have uncertainty it creates a gap. And for those that are prone to anxiety that gap gets filled with pessimistic possibilities. Often once the feeling of anxiety has started to grow, asking questions feels too difficult … Continue reading Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
Solving simple problems
I love the idea that simple things can be done to solve or reduce problems that significantly impact us. Whilst on a walk, I pondered on a problem I knew how to solve but had avoided. Yet, I was aware that if I did nothing, I'd get the repercussions later and potentially feel frustrated at … Continue reading Solving simple problems