When we avoid having conversations that we consider to be hard, difficult or challenging we are also saying that we're only committed to easy conversations. You then find yourself in situations where you're avoiding saying what you really think or how you really feel because you want to keep things easy. However, this just leads … Continue reading Easy conversations only
Often one of the things that stops us making necessary changes in our lives is this idea that we might prefer the way things were. We forget that many changes aren't permenant. If you cut your hair, it'll grow back or you can get a wig. If you leave your industry to try something new … Continue reading Willing to change
We are often taught that we need to become something. We're taught that we need to change. This often involves working harder and doing more. We place labels on ourselves, feeling as though we need more and more. We cover ourselves in labels as though too much is not enough. But the true self is … Continue reading The unbecoming
I've often found that the feeling of anxiety grows and becomes more heightened when questions go unasked. When we have uncertainty it creates a gap. And for those that are prone to anxiety that gap gets filled with pessimistic possibilities. Often once the feeling of anxiety has started to grow, asking questions feels too difficult … Continue reading Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
I love the idea that simple things can be done to solve or reduce problems that significantly impact us. Whilst on a walk, I pondered on a problem I knew how to solve but had avoided. Yet, I was aware that if I did nothing, I'd get the repercussions later and potentially feel frustrated at … Continue reading Solving simple problems
When you overexplain, it's you trying to accommodate other people by justifying yourself and your choices to them. It signals that you're seeking some level of external approval or permission that you're not able to give yourself. You might be over-explaining because you have people pleaser tendencies and you're worried that the other person might … Continue reading Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop?
Imagine bearing the weight of all that is difficult and challenging in your life on your shoulders all at once. Then, imagine having to go out into the world with that load and pretend that everything is fine. After a while the load becomes too much to bear and you reach a point where you … Continue reading What is the most loving thing that you can do?
As the years go by, I actively and consciously learn more and more about myself, specifically the way I work. Years back I used to write monthly todo lists, I didn't realise it at the time but I was mimicking things I'd seen other people do. Sort of like people that are organised and productive … Continue reading Why I started writing daily todo lists?
Have you ever found yourself putting time and effort into something whilst hoping for a very specific outcome? And then the more it seems like you won't get what you want, the more you try to make things happen, the more things seem to not be working out. I think most of us probably get … Continue reading Trying to make things happen
I recently found myself with a problem. My initial instinct was to solve it. I found myself focusing my efforts and energy on figuring out the best solution but at the same time, I felt stuck. Then suddenly, it occurred to me that I could just do nothing. This problem was the sort of thing … Continue reading Time to do nothing