We often make grand plans for the kinds of life we want to live. Then we carry them with us and work towards them. These plans influence who we connect with, what we do in our spare time, how we spend our money and maybe even how we present ourselves to the world. But, sometimes … Continue reading Open to new ideas
Tag: reflection
Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
I've often found that the feeling of anxiety grows and becomes more heightened when questions go unasked. When we have uncertainty it creates a gap. And for those that are prone to anxiety that gap gets filled with pessimistic possibilities. Often once the feeling of anxiety has started to grow, asking questions feels too difficult … Continue reading Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
Solving simple problems
I love the idea that simple things can be done to solve or reduce problems that significantly impact us. Whilst on a walk, I pondered on a problem I knew how to solve but had avoided. Yet, I was aware that if I did nothing, I'd get the repercussions later and potentially feel frustrated at … Continue reading Solving simple problems
Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop?
When you overexplain, it's you trying to accommodate other people by justifying yourself and your choices to them. It signals that you're seeking some level of external approval or permission that you're not able to give yourself. You might be over-explaining because you have people pleaser tendencies and you're worried that the other person might … Continue reading Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop?
Worth sticking up for
How many times have you held your tongue or put the needs of others before your own? Often the idea of being selfless is something that is praised but the reality is that it's often just self-sacrifice. When the person that puts others first is around people that put themselves first, they end up losing. … Continue reading Worth sticking up for
What is the most loving thing that you can do?
Imagine bearing the weight of all that is difficult and challenging in your life on your shoulders all at once. Then, imagine having to go out into the world with that load and pretend that everything is fine. After a while the load becomes too much to bear and you reach a point where you … Continue reading What is the most loving thing that you can do?
Introspection and extrospection
Over the past few weeks I've been asking myself the question 'what is this blog about?'.I've been thinking about the topics I share most often and how that can be encapsulated into a few words, a clear answer to my question. Over the past few months I've been in a personal development, problem solving, self-help … Continue reading Introspection and extrospection
Trying to make things happen
Have you ever found yourself putting time and effort into something whilst hoping for a very specific outcome? And then the more it seems like you won't get what you want, the more you try to make things happen, the more things seem to not be working out. I think most of us probably get … Continue reading Trying to make things happen
Time to do nothing
I recently found myself with a problem. My initial instinct was to solve it. I found myself focusing my efforts and energy on figuring out the best solution but at the same time, I felt stuck. Then suddenly, it occurred to me that I could just do nothing. This problem was the sort of thing … Continue reading Time to do nothing
How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
Around a month or so ago, an idea came to me that I found really useful. The idea was that situations that emotionally charge us are a reminder to focus on ourselves. Instead of getting caught up in the moment, feeling bad or worrying, take some time to check in with yourself. Perhaps you were … Continue reading How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
The Daily Gemm 