Smells good, tastes bad

Ideas of things are always beautiful and wonderful because we can make them whatever we want them to be. Reality on the other hand is much more rigid and fixed.

It’s like the ideas are the smell of a cake and reality is the actual cake. You could smell chocolate cake and anticipate it to be the best you’ve ever had but when you cut a slice and take a bite, it’s absolutely awful.

And so, I think as much as it’s important to daydream, it’s very important to focus on the reality of things because things don’t always turn out the way you imagine they will. And just like with the cake, something that smells good or even looks good doesn’t always taste good.

The summer of…

…love, friendship, reading, art, romance and so on. The possibilities are endless.

When it comes to figuring out the kind of summer you want to have, I think a good place to start is thinking about how you want to spend your time, what sorts of things you want to be doing and what you will be making a priority.

We often carry around with us the image of an ideal summer that is based around great expectations and doesn’t even really suit who we are. For example, a summer of parties, dinners and late nights when you like going to bed at a reasonable time and prefer being social one on one rather than in a big group.

We end up coming up with an ideal summer based on something we’ve seen or the way that we’ve been taught things should be instead of based on who we are as people.

It can be fun to daydream but day dreams can often end up becoming part of your reality so you may as well dream about something you actually want that will bring you more joy rather than something that you think you should be doing based on other people’s ideas and expectations.

Open yourself up to other possibilities, perhaps instead of the summer of love you have a summer of drawing, baking, writing short stories or even simply relaxing.

The excitement of new beginnings

Who doesn’t love the feeling of a fresh start?

Starting something new can bring up feelings of excitement but also a nervousness. This is normal when doing something you haven’t done before. However, the nerves can turn into anxiety if you focus on them too much and allow yourself to get carried away.

And so instead focus on the exciting possibilities of all the things that you hope will become your reality.

Delays and daydreams

I believe that it is possible to attain the things you want in you life, the kind of things that you daydream about. I believe this because it’s happened in my own life. However, what I often find is that there’s a delay but the delay isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

Sometimes we need to give ourselves time to grow and develop before our daydreams become reality.

And in that time of growth and development and it can be easy to start to beleive that what you want won’t happen or you may end up just forgetting about it altogther.

Then at some point after months or years have gone by, you suddenly realise that something currently happening in your life used to be part of your daydreams.

Ideas and reality

The idea of something is often much more appealing than the reality.

When you get caught up in a daydream about life, you’re in control you can make it whatever you want it to be.

You can come up with an idea that is totally impossible in the real world but plays out with ease in your mind.

But when reality strikes, when the thing you’ve been thinking about finally happens, it’s always very different.

It could be owning a designer bag.

You have this idea in your mind that you’ll be happier, that it will grant you some sort of status and that you’ll be more confident.

The reality is that you’re exactly the same, you just have a bag that was super expensive.

We create this fantasy that can only ever exist in our minds which often leads to us just feeling disappointed.

Settling with age

Most of us start out with big dreams of what we want to do with our lives. Then slowly, bit by bit, as the years go on we start to settle.

We settle from setbacks that lower our self-belief until you’ve convinced yourself that they were unrealistic anyway.

Other times you have people tell you that your dreams are too big, that they won’t work and that you need to be realistic.

Sometimes you’re aware of it but other times you have no idea until years have gone by and you’re wondering what happened to those dreams you used to have.

When daydreams come true

Everybody daydreams whether it’s a few seconds or dedicated moments in your week. Sometimes we daydream about everyday thing then other times our minds wander to things far out of reach.

It could be something like winning an award, moving to a new city or even meeting the love of your life.

But what do you do when that thing you used to dream about has now become your reality. One of the first things that might come up is a sense of familiarity because your mind has experienced it before.

However, what you might also find is that you’re not ready or prepared for your daydreams to become your reality. For example, let’s say you spent months daydreaming about moving to a new city. When the opportunity comes up instead of jumping at the chance you might end up passing it up because ‘now is not the right time’.

That might mean you never wanted it in the first place or maybe you’re just afraid of change.

Missed opportunities

When you take the time to look back on your life, do you think there is anything you missed out on?

The job you turned down, the work you were too afraid to put yourself forward for, the project you never launched…

There are so many things that we all could have done with our lives. And often we get caught up in the fantasy that our lives would be better if only I took that job.

But the truth is you don’t really know how things would have turned out. You might have taken that job and been miserable. But maybe you’d have ended up roughly exactly where you are right now.

When you’re not happy with where you’re at it’s easy to tell yourself a story about how your life could have been something spectacular.

In reality it’s probably much more helpful just to think about what you can do right now based on your current circumstances and then do it.

Forgotten dreams

What happened to those dreams off yours, those dreams you had to make, see and do?

When did you forget about the plans you made and what exactly are you doing now?

Everybody has a dream.

Whether it’s something you once worked towards and gave up on or merely that thing you think about as a form of escapism from your reality.

But sometimes we allow our circumstances to crush our dreams and suddenly we’ve forgotten all about what we really wanted. A dream is so much more more than a dream, it motivates us, guides us through daily life and gives us purpose.

Think of your forgotten dream as a neglected plant, now might be the perfect time to tend to it.

The lazy dreamer

Dreamers have high aspirations but the gap between where they are and where they want to be is vast.

Dreamers aren’t always good at bridging the gap because of the qualities they hold.

They’re ideas people but when it comes to getting things done they often fall short.

Think about what it’s like to dream. Your mind is full of vivid pictures and voices that feel real yet they aren’t actualized in common reality.

In order to make things happen to the highest potential, dreamers must also be doers (the kinds of people that get things done). If doing doesn’t come naturally to you it’ll be a useful thing to learn.