Settling with age

Most of us start out with big dreams of what we want to do with our lives. Then slowly, bit by bit, as the years go on we start to settle.

We settle from setbacks that lower our self-belief until you’ve convinced yourself that they were unrealistic anyway.

Other times you have people tell you that your dreams are too big, that they won’t work and that you need to be realistic.

Sometimes you’re aware of it but other times you have no idea until years have gone by and you’re wondering what happened to those dreams you used to have.

When daydreams come true

Everybody daydreams whether it’s a few seconds or dedicated moments in your week. Sometimes we daydream about everyday thing then other times our minds wander to things far out of reach.

It could be something like winning an award, moving to a new city or even meeting the love of your life.

But what do you do when that thing you used to dream about has now become your reality. One of the first things that might come up is a sense of familiarity because your mind has experienced it before.

However, what you might also find is that you’re not ready or prepared for your daydreams to become your reality. For example, let’s say you spent months daydreaming about moving to a new city. When the opportunity comes up instead of jumping at the chance you might end up passing it up because ‘now is not the right time’.

That might mean you never wanted it in the first place or maybe you’re just afraid of change.

Missed opportunities

When you take the time to look back on your life, do you think there is anything you missed out on?

The job you turned down, the work you were too afraid to put yourself forward for, the project you never launched…

There are so many things that we all could have done with our lives. And often we get caught up in the fantasy that our lives would be better if only I took that job.

But the truth is you don’t really know how things would have turned out. You might have taken that job and been miserable. But maybe you’d have ended up roughly exactly where you are right now.

When you’re not happy with where you’re at it’s easy to tell yourself a story about how your life could have been something spectacular.

In reality it’s probably much more helpful just to think about what you can do right now based on your current circumstances and then do it.

Forgotten dreams

What happened to those dreams off yours, those dreams you had to make, see and do?

When did you forget about the plans you made and what exactly are you doing now?

Everybody has a dream.

Whether it’s something you once worked towards and gave up on or merely that thing you think about as a form of escapism from your reality.

But sometimes we allow our circumstances to crush our dreams and suddenly we’ve forgotten all about what we really wanted. A dream is so much more more than a dream, it motivates us, guides us through daily life and gives us purpose.

Think of your forgotten dream as a neglected plant, now might be the perfect time to tend to it.

The lazy dreamer

Dreamers have high aspirations but the gap between where they are and where they want to be is vast.

Dreamers aren’t always good at bridging the gap because of the qualities they hold.

They’re ideas people but when it comes to getting things done they often fall short.

Think about what it’s like to dream. Your mind is full of vivid pictures and voices that feel real yet they aren’t actualized in common reality.

In order to make things happen to the highest potential, dreamers must also be doers (the kinds of people that get things done). If doing doesn’t come naturally to you it’ll be a useful thing to learn.

Testing the theory

Sometimes things don’t quite pan out in real life.

I recently put something I believed to be true into practice and to my surprise, my theory turned out to be wrong.

It’s something I had tested before and carried in my mind as an idea that was true.

But all of a sudden I was faced with the harsh reality of being wrong or perhaps it was the reality of an anomaly.

However, the main takeaway was that theories should be tested. It’s no use going round with a thought, idea or even belief system that you consider to be true if it only exists in your mind.

When life comes together

How does it feel when you realise you’re living your dreams.

I’d consider myself to be a bit of a dreamer. I daydream, I can be idealistic and I love stories.

I daydream/visualise about my future on a regular basis sometimes intentionally and sometimes on accident.

I often find that months or years later that thing I was daydreaming about is part of my reality.

And it can something like the kind of person I want to meet or an aspect of my lifestyle.

It fascinates me that you can have days where you’re happily going through life and then you suddenly realise that last year you’d been dreaming about being where you are right now.

When life comes together

How does it feel when you realise you’re living your dreams.

I’d consider myself to be a bit of a dreamer.

I daydream/visualise about my future on a regular basis sometimes intentionally and sometimes on accident.

I often find that months or years later that thing I was daydreaming about is part of my reality.

And it can be something like the kind of person I want to meet or an aspect of my lifestyle.

It fascinates me that you can have days where you’re happily going through life and then you suddenly realise that last year you’d been dreaming about being where you are right now.

 

What’s the use in making plans

It always feels good to start projects and make plans (at least it does for me anyway).

But what’s the use in making plans if you don’t follow through.

That really good idea you have could actually be something in the physical reality if you’re willing to bring it to life.

To want and do nothing is of no real use.

It creates a cycle of excitement at the possibility and disappointment at the outcome of nothingness.

Everyone has plans whether its passing thoughts or things you dedicate your daydreams to but if you really want the plan to become part of your reality then you kinda have to do something about it.