Just a little reminder for whenever you get overwhelmed with everything that is going on. It can be easy to forget how far you’ve come or all the helpful things that you’ve learnt.
Going for a walk – I think this must be one of the most popular things that people do to clear their head plus it gets the body moving.
Sitting in silence – We rarely sit in silence there’s always something whether you’re listening by choice or it’s background noise like music, TV or a conversation.
Talking to a friend – Choose someone that will listen but be mindful and ask before offloading. You don’t have to even talk about the issue at hand maybe just have a random chat about life.
Talking to a stranger – Not literally but some that is unbiased and not part of your everyday life like a therapist or a helpline set up to support people with different issues they’re facing.
Meditation – Maybe your mediation is sitting in silence but maybe it’s a guided mediation to ease stress or anxiety. It helps to be still sometimes and we often underestimate the impact it can have because we feel like it won’t help to just stop or at least slow down.
EFT – Also known as tapping. This is probably one of the most unexpectedly helpful things I’ve ever come across. I love that it doesn’t require any materials and is easy to do.
Laughter – They call laughter the medicine of life and I believe it. Something funny can totally shift your mood on days when you feel down.
Dancing – Dancing brings me so much joy and it’s another way to get the body moving. When your feeling down and remain still it enables the emotions to become heavy and weigh you down. Plus if dancing is something you associate with fun or celebrations it’ll actually help you feel better.
Uplifting words – Whether it’s podcasts, talks, songs or books, find words that uplift you. I even find it helpful to read back my own words because much of what I write is timeless and based around overcoming challenges.
Right now it’s easier than ever to spend your days switching between YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, Netflix (or some other streaming service) and Instagram. These things are great for entertainment and to catch up on things you’re interested in.
But it’s also important to dedicate time in your day to be away from a screen. I think it’s important to have interests that don’t require your phone, laptop, or TV. Not because technology is bad but because there is a whole other world outside of the screen.
Particularly with social media and YouTube, you can end up spending so much time watching the lives of others that you’re not even living your own life.
So here are a few things to do away from a screen:
- Cook a meal
- Host a dinner party
- Go to a wine tasting
- Read a book
- Go for a walk
- Tidy your home
- Go out for dinner
- Do a puzzle
- Do hand embroidery
- Paint your nails
- Read a magazine
- Play a board game
- Plant flowers
- Organise your closet
- Take a nap
- Visit a museum
Of course some of these things aren’t possible right now but they will be soon.
A bunch of things to do for those that are stuck inside for a little while:
- Declutter your closet
- Tidy an area of your home that you’ve been putting off
- Finish the book you’re currently reading
- Start a new book
- Phone a friend
- Have a group video call
- Watch a new series
- Work through your ‘movies to watch’ list
- Re-watch an old series
- Start a blog
- Write a short story
- Do yoga
- Write poetry
- Write a bucket list
- Write in your journal
- Listen to sound bowls
- Drink tea
- Make a playlist
- Dance to your favourite song
- Laugh (it boosts your immune system)
- Have a bath with essential oils
Lastly, and I suppose most importantly, take care of yourself and those around you.
They didn’t work for me.
At the start of every month I used to write a bunch of goals (well more like to-dos), maybe around 25. At the end of every month I never failed to have at least a few things left.
28-31 days is a long time to plan for and I found myself just sort of creating a random todo list of stuff for the month that I just never stuck to.
I’d write them with good intentions but my actions for the weeks that followed were somewhat half-hearted.
Now granted the solution may have been to just get more committed but I actually just switched to weekly todo lists instead.
I’ve found that making plans for myself every seven days gives me a chance to be a lot more focused.
And as a result I’m slowly but surely getting better at getting things done.
We all feel a little down from time to time which is totally normal. However, a moment of sadness can turn into hours, days or even weeks when you hold onto it. That’s why I think it’s so important to have things that you can do when you feel blue to help easy you out of the mood.
These aren’t quick fixes to shift your mood 180 in an instant. Instead it’s a list of things that I find helpful, so they might work for you too.
Go for a walk
Read my madder fatter diary
Write a poem
Phone a friend
Listen to the Jezabels
Make a gratitude list
Do a guided mediation
At first, I planned to explain each thing and how or why it works for me but that isn’t the important part. For me I focus on doing things that will allow me to reflect and ponder a little but also shift my perspective and often that is all I need in order to feel better.
I was daydreaming a few weeks ago and I had this idea about what to do with all the thoughts whirling around in my mind.
Get a piece of paper.
Draw a line down the middle.
On one side write the title ‘things that matter.
On the other side write the title ‘things that don’t matter’
Write down the stuff on your mind into one of the 2 categories and then make a promise to yourself that you won’t allow the things that you know don’t matter to consume your time and energy.
For everything else on the other side, try and sort it out.
Maybe it’s bothering you that you haven’t spoken to a friend for a while so instead of just dwelling and probably making up a bunch of scenarios, just give them a call.
The point of the exercise is to be more practical with the things that are on your mind and to remind you that just because you keep thinking about something, it doesn’t make it important.