They didn’t work for me.
At the start of every month I used to write a bunch of goals (well more like to-dos), maybe around 25. At the end of every month I never failed to have at least a few things left.
28-31 days is a long time to plan for and I found myself just sort of creating a random todo list of stuff for the month that I just never stuck to.
I’d write them with good intentions but my actions for the weeks that followed were somewhat half-hearted.
Now granted the solution may have been to just get more committed but I actually just switched to weekly todo lists instead.
I’ve found that making plans for myself every seven days gives me a chance to be a lot more focused.
And as a result I’m slowly but surely getting better at getting things done.
We all feel a little down from time to time which is totally normal. However, a moment of sadness can turn into hours, days or even weeks when you hold onto it. That’s why I think it’s so important to have things that you can do when you feel blue to help easy you out of the mood.
These aren’t quick fixes to shift your mood 180 in an instant. Instead it’s a list of things that I find helpful, so they might work for you too.
Go for a walk
Read my madder fatter diary
Write a poem
Phone a friend
Listen to the Jezabels
Make a gratitude list
Do a guided mediation
At first, I planned to explain each thing and how or why it works for me but that isn’t the important part. For me I focus on doing things that will allow me to reflect and ponder a little but also shift my perspective and often that is all I need in order to feel better.
I was daydreaming a few weeks ago and I had this idea about what to do with all the thoughts whirling around in my mind.
Get a piece of paper.
Draw a line down the middle.
On one side write the title ‘things that matter.
On the other side write the title ‘things that don’t matter’
Write down the stuff on your mind into one of the 2 categories and then make a promise to yourself that you won’t allow the things that you know don’t matter to consume your time and energy.
For everything else on the other side, try and sort it out.
Maybe it’s bothering you that you haven’t spoken to a friend for a while so instead of just dwelling and probably making up a bunch of scenarios, just give them a call.
The point of the exercise is to be more practical with the things that are on your mind and to remind you that just because you keep thinking about something, it doesn’t make it important.