Your good advice is wasted on those that just want a listening ear.It's easy to know when you don't want someone to tell you what they think you should do. But how often do you extend that to other people.Have you ever found yourself giving what you believe is excellent advice only for the person … Continue reading Wasting ‘good’ advice
Tag: life
Bent out of shape
People that are used to people pleasing know what it's like to put their own wants and needs aside. Sometimes, you convince yourself that you're just compromising to find a balance. This is fine, until you realise that you're the only one willing to change. This could all be with one person or apply to … Continue reading Bent out of shape
A life changing perspective
A running theme throughout a lot of my posts (and what has become the baseline for this blog) is this idea of life's challenges and difficult moments having a lesson or a takeaway. Having this perspective completely changes your life. You go from things like blaming other people, being overly self critical, treating yourself unkindly … Continue reading A life changing perspective
Addicted to limbo
When you're used to something, you can end up creating situations in your life where you get more of it, even when it's not helpful. I recently had a conversation about a problem. From my perspective it was fairly easy to solve. From the perspective of the person I was with it was something challenging, … Continue reading Addicted to limbo
Making assumptions
Assuming the worst is easy to do but rarely beneficial. Sometimes, most often when you're too inside your own head, you can end up assuming the worst. This then leads to action (or over-reaction) about something that wasn't even true in the first place. You're more than likely to end up regretting it, wishing you'd … Continue reading Making assumptions
Joy and tragedy
It's can be easy to end up feeling guilty for being in a state of of joy when you know that people in other countries have had their lives turned upside down. How do we balance joy and tragedy? I think the answer is that we don't. I used to think to think that you … Continue reading Joy and tragedy
Lucky
Some things sound like a terrible idea yet actually turn out perfectly fine. I think that's called luck. Sometimes those that consider themselves to be lucky get into the habit of pushing the boat out. They want to push their luck as far as it can go without it going over the edge. In other … Continue reading Lucky
What’s it like?
I committed myself to writing and sharing it on this blog over 3 years ago. Sometimes it's easy but other times it feels difficult to do. Sometimes I want to write about the world or social media and other times I want to share what I've learnt about myself through self-exploration. The personal posts come … Continue reading What’s it like?
An unexpected outcome
Sometimes we get carried away and create ideas for how we think that situations will play out. We predict our futures through the lense of the worst case scenario, telling ourselves we're simply being practical. The reality is that it is a form of protection that leads to self sabotage. Although it is said that … Continue reading An unexpected outcome
A resilient mindset
Seeing the bright side of every situation has it's perks. It's not about pretending that nothing bothers you or acting as though every experience is positive. It's more about adopting the kind of mindset that makes you resilient to the challenges of life. So perhaps in moments of sadness, you can remind yourself that it's … Continue reading A resilient mindset
The Daily Gemm 