The thing about missing out

Sometimes it might seem like you’re missing out. But the power of hindsight is that when you push too hard for a particular outcome you’ll find that you’ll be glad you missed out.

Turns out some things aren’t meant to be even if you don’t realise in the moment.

We often get caught up in ‘fomo’ feeling like we have to join in with everything.

But sometimes a useful thing to do is force yourself to miss out as a reminder that it’s not as big of deal as you think.

And if you did miss something, well there’s always next time.

Don’t wait until you’re ready

Because you’ll never be ready.

When it comes to fear the mistake we often make is trying to wait for it to go away.

It probably won’t.

But there you are saying no and putting things off because you think that by doing nothing the feeling will go away.

Instead how about try leaning into that feeling (I think Stacey June said something about leaning in on her podcast and maybe she got it from Brene Brown).

Anyway, an important lesson I’ve learnt this year is that you can’t bypass stuff so embrace it.

If not you’ll just end up making excuses and nothing will ever get done.

Negative indulgence

Thoughts on how we sometimes make ourselves feel worse.

In a recent moment I found myself choosing to do something that wasn’t making me feel good.

Now the details aren’t important but the lesson I learnt in the moment is.

Imagine you’re doing something and you it doesn’t feel good. On one hand you can stop, let go of the feeling and focus on yourself.

But on the other hand you can negatively indulge and allow yourself to feel bad.

It might seem strange that someone would choose to feel bad. But something I’ve learnt is that when someone has an internal belief they’ll be drawn to things that support that notion.

Take not feeling good enough as an example. If you heard people talking about you saying unkind things and you already feel bad about yourself those words only reaffirm your existing feelings.

But I think if you do feel good enough you’re less likely to give attention to something that goes against how you feel because that isn’t beneficial.

So the next time you find yourself indulging, ask yourself how it’s making you feel.