If you get someone used to treating you a certain way or acting in a particular way towards you, the person will come to expect you to allow it. Sometimes you allow things that you aren't okay with because you don't want to rock the boat, hurt the persons feelings or you've told yourself that … Continue reading The problem with letting things slide
If you're not willing to be patient you might find yourself missing out. So often we want everything now and the idea of having to wait makes us anxious. But remember that life is often like the quote, good things come to those who wait. It's not about making time for struggle or enduring something … Continue reading Holding out for the good bit
It's been said that reassurance is something that we can't get enough of. It's strange to think about how we seek reassurance to keep our fears at bay but each time we get it we crave more and more often finding ourselves feeling stuck without it. When you sit and watch a persons anxieties and … Continue reading Bored of anxieties
You don't have to resist or try to make it work, I promise you, it is okay. Life is full of endings and new beginnings. But sometimes when things are getting to the end and we don't know what is around the corner, we get nervous and become resistant. We try to put the pieces … Continue reading It’s okay when it ends
It's so interesting that often in different types of relationships we hold back instead from just being ourselves and allowing things to work out the way they're meant to be. You make a conscious effort to be less of yourself instead of just modelling what you want from your relationships. This choice leaves you feeling … Continue reading What do you want in relationships?
Most people that you choose to have in your life are chosen because your lives or you as people align in some way. It could be a similar taste in music, studying (or have studied) the same subjects, enjoying the same leisure activities, similar mindsets and worldviews or maybe you share the same aspirations. Whatever … Continue reading The misalignment of us
The idea of things not lasting, of things being temporary is often seen as a bad thing. It's seen as a failure. We get caught up in this idea that if something is good it should last and if it doesn't last then something was wrong. I think the problem is that we find it … Continue reading Temporary things
This used to be one of my worst habits. I'd do this thing where I'd place a lot of expectations on people that left no room for humanness and left me feeling disappointed. Once I realised that I did this I started making a conscious effort to stop. I've learnt how to catch myself in … Continue reading Life changing habits: Let go of expectations
Perhaps one of the most valuable lessons a friend has taught me is to not take life so seriously and to laugh more at the ebb and flow of life. Life is totally different when you're willing to be less rigid and laugh at your experiences. When you're hard on yourself for simply being a … Continue reading Lessons in friendship
I recently bumped into someone that I hadn't seen in 4 years. Sure we follow each other on social media but we don't interact with each other much. So what was so amazing is that things fell right into place as though no time had passed, in the best possible way. This person even brought … Continue reading Do you remember 4 years ago?