Embracing a care-less mentality

Mid-week musings on not embracing anxiety.

If you find yourself caught in the analysis paralysis of indecision it might be worth making a conscious effort to care-less.

Instead of allowing the thoughts to go on and on until breaking point, give yourself a deadline.

3 minutes, 3 hours or 3 days before you have to take action. Do it for at least a week and keep a dairy of the decisions you made and the outcome.

The ideal outcome would be that you find that whether you care or care-less things will still be alright which is a pretty good reason to stop being so afraid of making decisions.

You’ll have physical evidence that what you decide isn’t always the most important thing it’s how you feel and your attitude towards what you’ve decided.

And if you find you’ve picked something that didn’t result in the desired outcome , then it’ll be the perfect time to practice your bouncebackability.

At the end of trying out a different approach to decision making the beauty of it is, is that if it was just totally dreadful you can always go back to your old approach.

If that’s the the case at least you tried which is often more important than the actual result.

If you want something different

We so often go through life wishing and hoping for things but not taking any action.

It could be wanting a new job because you aren’t happy in your current job but all you do is complain about it.

Wanting to meet new people but never going anywhere new.

Wanting to get fit but coming home after work and sitting in bed watching episodes of a show on Netflix back to back.

Wanting to eat better but only buying frozen food and microwave meals.

We have much more control over our lives than our minds will sometimes have us believe.

If you want something different, try something new.

Minimum effort required

I used to think that I was the kind of person that went above and beyond, always doing more than the bare minimum.

That was until I had a situation where I found myself doing the bare minimum and I realised that this was not the first time.

I’d fallen into being a bare minimum betty a long time ago. Probably from when I first stared to face challenges in my life. I got into the habit of thinking ‘well I don’t know how to do this so I’ll just do as much as I can and hope it’s enough.’

In many cases I got into the habit of just not trying or giving up quite easily. In some cases I’d just avoid whatever doing the thing I found challenging until the last minute so I couldn’t give more than the minimum effort because I didn’t have the time.

The worst part is, it’s been easy to keep up with because often the bare minimum is just enough.

What’s the takeaway?

Sometimes I worry that I’m not very good at this, that even though I’m posting every single day, something is still missing.

I’ve told a few people in my life about this site but because it’s so rough and unpolished I don’t really want to shout about The Daily Gemm from the rooftops. But maybe that’s what I should be doing, maybe not shouting but at least telling more people.

Perhaps what is missing from this site is more of me. I want to put more effort into what I’m sharing and so that at least one person can take something from each piece I write.

And maybe that person will pass it on.

 

The exchange principle

This concept was one I came up with around 5 years ago. It’s the idea that things have a way of balancing themselves out, with no effort.

For example, the thing that you put all your efforts into doesn’t work out but you don’t end up with nothing. It’s like the universe gives you exchange and you end up with something else instead.

The best part is, it’s often something better or something you hadn’t even considered.