When we avoid having conversations that we consider to be hard, difficult or challenging we are also saying that we're only committed to easy conversations. You then find yourself in situations where you're avoiding saying what you really think or how you really feel because you want to keep things easy. However, this just leads … Continue reading Easy conversations only
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If you think you might forget
Write it down. Sometimes when preparing to have particular types of conversations we spend a lot of time gathering information and planning what we want to say. We do this because we want to be prepared and we want things to run smoothly. Also, many of us have probably had situations where we got flustered … Continue reading If you think you might forget
Disagreements aren’t a bad thing
It seems sometimes that we shy away from being in conversation or an environment with people that we disagree with. I've previously written that I think it's worth unfollowing people on social media that you disagree with. The reason for this is that on social media it's rare that people with differing opinions have a … Continue reading Disagreements aren’t a bad thing
Saying what you need
As much as you might know what you need and even want, doesn't mean anyone else does. But sometimes we forget that and we end up feeling frustrated. We end up then wondering why the other person won't say or do certain things. We take it personally and we get upset. However, more often than … Continue reading Saying what you need
Important conversations
We might not like them but we have to have them. We put off difficult conversations because they make us nervous. We're worried about how our words will come out, how our words will be perceived, how the person on the receiving end will feel, we're scared of being vulnerable and we worry that we … Continue reading Important conversations
Big problems and small solutions
Sometimes we assume that the solution to a problem has to be complicated. We overlook the little things forgetting how big an impact can be caused by something small. And so we go in search of something complicated but to no avail. Then the problem continues and maybe even grows which causes us to become … Continue reading Big problems and small solutions
Valuable conversations
Some of the most valuable conversations to have are the ones that are most difficult but that shouldn't be a reason not to have them. Even though it might be difficult, challenging or uncomfortable it allows room for learning, growth and understanding that may have not taken place otherwise. Of course, there is a chance … Continue reading Valuable conversations
Getting drawn in
Some people enjoy arguing. They love it, it fuels them and they will seek it out. They're rarely interested in understanding other people or sharing what they know instead they want to dominate and they want to be right. You may find yourself often getting drawn in but by then it's too late, you've gotten … Continue reading Getting drawn in
Figuring out where things went wrong
If you find yourself regularly having conversations that don't go as planned, in the sense that the outcome you intended wasn't achieved (or you just end up getting frustrated) it's worth taking the time to figure out where things went wrong. Sometimes, it is a simple case of two people with different perspectives not being … Continue reading Figuring out where things went wrong
Daydreams and the dream life
One of the things I enjoy writing about is the dream life. But it's more than just words it's about the kind of life I aspire to. Whilst daydreaming one night I realised that I've never really shared my dream life in great detail. One of the main reasons is, there is not one set … Continue reading Daydreams and the dream life