There's a saying that goes something like, if what you're doing isn't working, do something else. It's simple enough and yet we end up making it so much more complicated. Sometimes we even complain about certain aspects our life as though we don't have the power and control to change things. And sure, we can't … Continue reading What’s the real problem?
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You can’t control the outcome
In a recent interaction, the response made me realise that despite carefully picking my words, there was a misunderstanding. I felt like I had over explained, dotted all the i's and crossed all the t's but somehow the other person didn't understand what I was trying to say. It had me stumped. In hindsight, it … Continue reading You can’t control the outcome
Let your life change
Sometimes in order to gain the change you are seeking you have to let go. You have to allow life to happen in whatever way that is meant to be and trust that things will be alright. You have to let go of the idea that you can control the way that things will turn … Continue reading Let your life change
Uncertainty is inevitable
We often make the mistake of thinking that the best way to deal with uncertainty is to remove it from our lives. It makes sense because without all these unknowns there is less risk and you will feel safer. But the problem with this approach is that you can't control everything. Uncertainty will always be … Continue reading Uncertainty is inevitable
Important conversations
We might not like them but we have to have them. We put off difficult conversations because they make us nervous. We're worried about how our words will come out, how our words will be perceived, how the person on the receiving end will feel, we're scared of being vulnerable and we worry that we … Continue reading Important conversations
The planning process
Or how to get caught in false productivity, when really you're just wasting time. You could spend forever planning if you really wanted to. You could write lists, create mind maps and make a 12 month plan. You can do all of those things and make no progress on the project you are planning for. … Continue reading The planning process
When the numbers get you down
I try not to look at the stats very often because I never want to be too attached to the numbers. Of course it feels great when the numbers are high, when you're getting lots of likes, comments and new followers. But when the numbers drop and you're not seeing as many likes or views … Continue reading When the numbers get you down
The most important thing
Often in life the thing causing the most anxiety and frustration is not particularly important in the long term. If you were to assess it in the grand scheme of life and death you'd probably find that it doesn't matter as much as you think it does. We tend to get swept up in how … Continue reading The most important thing
Identifying barriers
If you had £10million what would you do differently? We otfen think that money is the biggets barrier to us being able to achcive our dreams. However, that is rarely the case because where there is a will there is a way. The real barrier is a little more challenging to overcome. The real barrier … Continue reading Identifying barriers
Dealing with the unexpected
No matter how much you plan and prepare you always encounter unexpected situations. In the moment it can be easy to end up feeling overwhelmed after all this is not what you wanted, it's not what you planned for. And so you have two choices. The first is to get caught up in the unexpected … Continue reading Dealing with the unexpected
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