Sometimes you have to accept that your best isn't good enough. Perhaps you're losing clients, not meeting targets or not making enough to meet your basic needs like food and shelter. But other times the case is that you aren't actually offering your best, you're giving half-heartedly. This often happens when we don't actually believe … Continue reading I’m doing my best
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Alone time
Something really interesting happens when you start spending time alone. You learn a lot about yourself. You learn what you like to do, how you like to spend your time, what brings you joy, what fulfills you and so much more outside of your relationships with other people. So often we learn about ourselves in … Continue reading Alone time
Hard to break
I think one of the main reasons that old habits are hard to break is because we're used to them. When you've been doing something for a long time whether it's beneficial to your life or not, it can be difficult to just let it go. Even if you know it's not good for you, … Continue reading Hard to break
That’s not like you
We grow up carrying around certain beliefs, ideas and perspectives. We have things that we tell ourselves we wouldn't do. It could be anything from playing sports to wearing false nails, hiring a cleaner to watching stand up comedy. These aspects help shape the kind of people we end up becoming. However, sometimes we reach … Continue reading That’s not like you
Managing high hopes
High hopes can lead to disappointment. We all have things that we want in life whether it be physical items, titles or things from other people. I think it's perfectly okay to want things but it's important to also remember that you might not get them or certain things won't quite work out as you … Continue reading Managing high hopes
The importance of introspection
Sometimes taking the time to understand yourself can help you start to understand others. In particular when it comes to interactions and exchanges not turning out how you'd hoped or think they should. The disclaimer for what is to follow is that of course you don't need to internalise and understand someone treating you poorly. … Continue reading The importance of introspection
How to be a better listener
Don't offer adviceDon't offer advice until the person asks for it. People often make the assumption that when someone is talking about an issue they want to be told what to do. However, many times a person just wants to express themselves and feel heard. Show that your engaged verballyMuttering a generic hmmm, every now … Continue reading How to be a better listener
You don’t get paid to pave the way
The idea of paving the way is quite interesting and also amazing. However, one thing that I've noticed is often the trailblazers do not receive as much financially in comparison to those that come after. I think in some ways that is one of the reasons that people are afraid to go first. Paving the … Continue reading You don’t get paid to pave the way
Actions and feelings
Often we hesiste to take action because we're waiting on a feeling. For example, you hesitate to lead, speak up or contribute because you're waiting on confidence. And so, you wait and put things off hoping that in time the confidence will come. But the confidence may never come. You don't become more confident by … Continue reading Actions and feelings
Good and bad writing days
The writing process is just a stream of thought that I lock into for long enough to pour out a hundred words or so.Gemm 2019 On a good day the words just flow, I don't have to try and I don't have to sit and hope that something interesting comes to mind. But on other … Continue reading Good and bad writing days
The Daily Gemm 