But voicing it, that's a whole other thing. If you're not used to saying what you need, then the moment you begin you might be hit with resistance from those on the receiving end. It's so much easier for other people when you don't require anything from them because then it doesn't matter how they … Continue reading It’s one thing to know what you need
Tag: anxiety
The freedom to be
What does life look like without being crippled by anxiety when making decisions? What does life feel like when you want to do something and you just do it? I wrote last year about being able to move from one step to the next without 101 steps in-between. At the time it was just an … Continue reading The freedom to be
The ‘Do It Now’ day
When you're not ready to handle something the best thing to do is to put it aside. But sometimes when you leave things for much longer than necessary and you're no longer taking the time to figure out how to manage a challenge problem, you're just avoiding it. Often once you start avoiding something it … Continue reading The ‘Do It Now’ day
The fear of getting things wrong
One of the easiest ways to identify if you have an issue with perfectionism in some way, shape or form is to look at how you react to when you make mistakes (or what feels like a mistake). How easily are you able to move on from the moment? How do you feel about or … Continue reading The fear of getting things wrong
Making the leap
If there's a gap between your life and the life you want, something has to change. Life can change or you can change. One of my major underlying themes for 2022 was change. Not my usual small scale gentle change. It was the large scale, transformative change. I'm starting to understand that there are benefits … Continue reading Making the leap
That thing you’re avoiding
How is it we allow ourselves to be overwhelmed and consumed small simple tasks? Something that could take 10 minutes becomes challenging and scary. So, you put it off and tell yourself that you'll do it later, that you'll do it when you feel less afraid or less overwhelmed. Meanwhile the feelings won't go away … Continue reading That thing you’re avoiding
Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
I've often found that the feeling of anxiety grows and becomes more heightened when questions go unasked. When we have uncertainty it creates a gap. And for those that are prone to anxiety that gap gets filled with pessimistic possibilities. Often once the feeling of anxiety has started to grow, asking questions feels too difficult … Continue reading Asking questions and eliminating uncertainty
Figure out what you need
Through periods of overwhelm it's easy to feel lost and stuck. When there are 101 problems finding a solution can be challenging. Often, the best place to start is by figuring out what you need in the moment. Finish the sentence: When I feel anxious in a crowded place, I need... Perhaps you're in a … Continue reading Figure out what you need
Anxious
In a recent post I wrote about embracing awkward. Shortly after I realised that what I was referring to was anxiety, specifically social anxiety. I then got thinking about what being socially anxious looks like. I think when a person becomes aware of their own behaviour, they can end up amplifying it. You're sitting there … Continue reading Anxious
Uncertainty is inevitable
We often make the mistake of thinking that the best way to deal with uncertainty is to remove it from our lives. It makes sense because without all these unknowns there is less risk and you will feel safer. But the problem with this approach is that you can't control everything. Uncertainty will always be … Continue reading Uncertainty is inevitable
The Daily Gemm 